I love Tease and Denial, CFNM (Clothed Female, Naked Male) and Edging videos but quite often this overlaps with a practise known as Ruined Orgasm.
I know most will be familiar with it but for those that aren't here is a quick wiki description. Do any men enjoy this or do any partners subject their males to this treatment?
Most videos will show a female bringing the male to orgasm through oral or hand stimulation then stepping back and watching as the come is sprayed helplessly across the floor or their own chest without any stimulation. Normally the male is moaning in frustration.
If orgasm still occurs after removal of stimulation, it typically brings less pleasure than usual, and is considered a "ruined orgasm", as opposed to being a "denied orgasm" (sometimes known in men as "https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blue_balls"). Alternatively (for men), the release of semen during the https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ejaculation#Emission of ejaculation might be prevented by some sort of constriction ("blocked orgasm"). Depending on the relationship, subjects might be repeatedly teased to the point of orgasm several times, but without actual orgasm, causing feelings of intense arousal and psychological need.
It doesn't have to be in the guise of Domme/sub...
But, for me, an orgasm is a single event, T&D and ruined orgasm are part of a much more complex phsychological engagement. The physical 'release' of an orgasm is something relatively run of the mill, The mental line you walk where you wonder will I get to cum, will this happen, won't that happen is far more interesting, for me. And that's just scratching the surface - what I'm interested in is what sensations can the rest of the body provide - be those socially perceived "positive" or "negative" sensations. Self control and the power of one's own mind over the body in battle against the physical stimuli provided - there's a lot of things to explore....
Denial, edge play, ruined orgasm, they all have this mental edge to them, but they also provide for far less run-of-the-mill orgasms when you do have one.
I cannot handle any kind of pain play so most of those activities instil fear in me.
Do you ever break as a sub and ask for the game to end? Do you ever change your mind and ask for a genuine orgasm or does the game continue regardless?
Thank you. We're not lifestyle, so the game does end, we do do vanilla stuff too, so i do get a normal orgasm. When were in a scene though, she might make me really desperate for an orgasm, but I also don't want to spoil it - it's all part of the game. The confusion this causes is all part of the submission experience for me.