An average is 5 or so minutes, but some last longer and some last less.
It’s the same old debate of penis size, when in reality everyone is different. I can last ages!! But then if my partner does something to tip me over the edge I’m done in seconds! So a few factors are involved:
How long since the last time?
How turned on that person is
What are they thinking about (stress can block it)
The place (nervous because people are around etc)
Even smells can affect the person, but if someone cums quickly, just remember that’s because your very attractive to them and you turn them on a lot
Are you happy with the sex or are you looking for more? If you are looking for more, I would recommend that you encourage him to help you orgasm before he enters for then you are excited. Then you will not need as long to orgasm. The key is communication so you can be happy with your sex life. My wife and I enjoy great sex even though I do not last long and I do not fill her up. We make it work with what I got and we are both happy.
There are a lot of varying factors that can play into this. If I’m with someone new it’ll be minutes but then once I’m more comfortable and don’t get quite as excited I’d say my minimum is 20 minutes, other times it can be a good 40 minutes or longer.
Premature ejaculation is a genuine problem with some young men, and being with a super-sexy partner makes it a challenge :), but we older guys would sometimes love to be that spontaneous. In the end, though, it doesn’t really matter how long it takes.
The orgasm is not the be-all-and-end-all of sex, even though that is sometimes the male mindset. As you get more experience, you will both get as much fun from anticipation, foreplay, post-orgasm play, exploring kinks and loads of other factors, as you will from the big O itself. Take it as your licence to experiment!
My husband can last a really long time before cumming.
It wasn’t always the case but he got better over time because I started having situational anorgasmia and I need a lot of time. (I have the best man I could ask for! )
However, he can cum in minutes when I give him a treat, but he loves edging so it depends on the time we have.
If I am masturbating I can cum usually in less than 5 minutes.
If I am having sex for some reason my body is like “I MUST SAVOUR THIS” and it takes me… much longer to cum (like 10-30 minutes even though it feels amazing and great. I have to try different positions and different things etc). My wife tends to finish a few minutes before me unless she’s particularly tired or focused entirely on my pleasure.
Nearing 60 I am pretty good at control but not always.
Porn has ruined men. Most men cannot last for 30 minutes of pounding. I think it is unrealistic to expect that.
My lady will never orgasm from intercourse alone. She has only orgasmed once from oral and it was with me while in Hedo III with a bunch of people in a hot tub.
Many times will we start foreplay and she will orgasm from her toy and then we move on to intercourse. Most times she will cum again and maybe I will cum with her or hold off for her to come again in another position. She can come in 5 to 10 minutes usually.
Sometimes I will come quickly and we will use her toys. Sometimes she won’t cum. If she drinks a lot it becomes much more difficult. If she wants it hard and fast, I am most likely going to cum fairly quickly.
For him, change positions when he is getting close. There are ways with the pc muscles to attempt to hold off ejaculation.
Viagra and maybe to a lesser extent Cialis can make him less sensitive. Sometimes with a Viagra I could ejaculate and still stay hard and do it again.
If you look up the average time for ejaculation you will find he is pretty normal. Check out this article.
If you get into his mind about this, you could have a bigger issue. Tread carefully if you are not satisfied.
I do feel sorry for my husband because I’m passionate about what I do and I’m confident in what I do, I love doing what I do and most of all I love pleasing him. It’s like a lethal quad for PE
Edging can help. If he gets too close, slow down, just be prepared for an even bigger mess when he does finally explode
It definitely depends on how turned in I am, when the last orgasm I had was etc. if it has been a while, I will rub one out before doing the deed so I can make sure I last a little bit longer!
So I usually cum within about 5 mins if piv we usually have a mutual masturbation session while watching some couples porn I’ll make sure my wife has had at least 1 orgasim before we actually engage in sex , once we are doing it doggie I’ll cum within 5 mins. The sight of her ares and my cock sliding in and out of her pussy sends me over the edge
Totally agree that practice helps. I used to come quickly but with practice have gained control and can mostly last as long as I want from PIV sex. As @2xtourists has said I don’t believe orgasms are the main criteria for good sex and sometimes I don’t cum but still have a great experience.
I guess the main question though is does sex leave you frustrated? If it does then explore ways where it is more enjoyable for you. I find making my partner orgasm an incredible turn on and your boyfriend may be the same so help him find ways other than PIV to pleasure you. If he feels that he’s close and wants to last longer get him to stop and switch back to other ways of stimulating you. If you need other forms or stimulation during PIV to orgasm, clit, breasts bum whatever then encourage him to stimulate you in this way or do it yourself. Ultimately communication will help you both enjoy sex more.
I’d be pretty fast if it was pure hard banging sex haha 5 mins and boom and it’s that fast cause the OH is a goddess I should have married someone a little less goddessly if that’s a word hahaha
I manage myself so slow down and then mix it up go down on her and use toys to make the session last longer x
Sometimes I can cum within a few minutes, other times it can be hours, but that’s not all out penetration, that’s fooling around, licking, squeezing, toys too
I think it’s a matter of pace and control. If you keep up a quick and consistent unbroken rhythm the entire time I’d say most people would get off quite quickly. But that’s rarely how sex goes. How do we get science to test this. Automatic strokes? Any volunteers?
Lots of opinions on average here. I’ll say most days, in sex, I don’t cum until my wife does - usually about 15-20 minutes of penetrative sex. On the flip side, if she’s not in the mood to O herself, she’ll roll over and taking her from behind I can be Gone in 60 Seconds. Same if I go down on her first, then slide in after she cums, is all wet and aroused still, doesn’t usually take more than a minute of thrusting.
Masturbating takes about 5 minutes of direct stimulation, not counting arousal time
He usually cums in less than 5 minutes but it depends what he is doing. If he is having a wank and he is still soft when he starts then it will be about 5 minutes but if he is already very hard and rubbing himself quickly then it will be just a minute or two or even just a few pumps of his cock.
He always makes sure I have orgasmed a few times through foreplay and then once he is in me it will be a few minutes but I’ll probably cum again at the same high.
I often wish I was a quick cummer… I’d love to squeeze in a quicky etc, but it just doesn’t happen like that… we have to book out an hour or so, which makes public fun particularly challenging…
It just depends for us and what we are doing. Sometimes we both just want a quickie and it doesn’t take long at all. Most the time when we make love or peg, lots of toys, lots of foreplay. We like our love making to last.
Literally depends on the situation. Normal sex I can last anywhere up to 30ish minutes. If however she says she wants to use a toy or a sleeve deffo makes me cum quicker. Mainly if she uses the big one and I watch I can be done in less than 5 minutes.
Then there is oral , if she gives me one of her amazing BJ’s can sometimes be less than 5 minutes. However she can’t deep throat. An ex of mine could and that made me cum in less than 3 minutes every time lol
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