I’ve only had experience with my boyfriend so wondering what is average time for most men to cum? I think my boyfriend is definitely in the ‘quick cummers’ category and is usually done in a few minutes!
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It varies the average guy cums in 5.4 minutes! From penetration to ejaculation! Lots of things can make playtime last longer …… foreplay toys etc…
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In my experience and opinion I’m quite far on the other side of the scale and it can take quite a while…
Sometimes it’s a good thing, but sometimes it really can be frustrating.
Pros and cons of both.
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As above many things can make the time you last vary.
There are time when I only last 1 - 2 minutes as th foreplay and build up have got me to breaking point before we get to penetration.
Then there are other times when I can last 20 +mins
But no matter, I will always ensure my wife has orgasmed either by toys or fingers etc
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Yes, lots of variables. I tend to think I’m a fairly quick cumer. If we are having a quicky as in no foreplay just PIV I’ll usually only last about 2.5-3 minutes. Unfortunately this is usually not enough for my wife to have an orgasm so I always take care of her first or afterwards, she likes oral better anyway.
She doesn’t seem to mind, we were each other’s firsts and don’t know anything else. A couple of times during round two she has found the spot and has ridden me for 10+ minutes and had a vaginal orgasm.
I would class myself on the otherside and perhaps sometimes take too long to cum.
This has definitely been a comment by the OH when giving a hand job, causing her wrist to ache.
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It can vary with my husband but generally he is a quick cummer rather than a slow one. We usually spend lots of time on foreplay so I’ve usually had a good few orgasms before he gets inside me and then he can be a few minutes to about 5 minutes.
It really depends on how aroused he is, usually after a good foreplay session he is already very turned on and can be done very quickly at this point. There has been a couple of times where he has cum whilst going down on me.
Also depends on how often he’s been wanking, if he has not been doing it much then he probably isn’t going to last long 
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If my wife goes on top then I’m done for!
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As others have stated it varies. He can cum within a minute. Doesn’t bother me in slightest cos I can cum just as quickly as he can 
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It takes me a good while to climax. If I don’t masterbate, I can cut the time down some. OH usually doesn’t mind. She just cums and cums until I get there.
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It definitely varies from my perspective. Time of day, amount of foreplay beforehand, length of time between sessions etc. all playing a factor. I think so long as you’re honest with each other and both having your needs met it doesn’t matter too much!
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I have to insist on going down on my wife and playing with her for a while because she can’t come from PIV.
Make sure she’s happy first then I tend to last 2-4 minutes in all honesty
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I either last a few minutes or can last really long time. Depends on how long it’s been/how horny I am.
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Again its different times with different positions and arousal levels…
Doggy driving fast is quicker than 100m world record but kneeling and the oh moving in doggy its more like the 400m .
Again her on top is much longer , i think gravity helps .
Main thing does he satisfy you if yes … who cares lol
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It can vary for me a little, as others have said, depending on position during sex and last orgasm. I’d probably like it to be longer but I’ll admit it’s usually only a couple of minutes before I climax.
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As others have said, it’s a movable feast depending on what else is going on, but I’d count myself among the longer-lasting; even at my fastest, it’ll be 20 minutes, and it’s not uncommon to last two or three hours, or never manage to finish at all (on Sunday night we just gave up after a couple of hours because, even though we had a great, fun, happy, sexy night, I just wasn’t looking likely to get there at all). It can be very frustrating.
I think porn has a big part to play in this topic the stigma surrounding males being the biggest and lasting the longest and anyone who doesn’t last that long is somehow inadequate (not to say that’s your saying you’re partner is inadequate) just in general, I have had this conversation with other females over the years and in my experience it’s a been a similar answer from them all it’s quite common to last only a few minutes some have said they find it extremely good turn on that the partner they are with is that turned on by them etc one friend who I was quite open with a few years ago her old partner didn’t last long and she would cum but she always used to say the best she got was when she did it her self, but the problem come when said partner would blame her every time this led to them not having much sex him feeling he was unable to give her what she wanted and her not wanting to be blamed she always said it was better to let him pace himself if she went on top he was done for it would be over in seconds, so there is two sides to a coin if both parties can find balance and both leave satisfied then I think it’s a winner any sort of finger pointing from what I have seen/heard Leeds to disaster, but saying this most females iv spoken to have said they cum in a few minutes them selfs especially when playing on there own, with someone else it can be longer depending on the persons skills etc my advice try something i know has worked for a few people I speak to, make him watch you first play with your self to orgasm before he is allowed to join in at least you will be ahead of the game if he doesn’t last to long 
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I am in the quick cummer category. Once I enter it is 1 to 2 minutes normally. I have to make sure my wife orgasm before I enter to ensure she orgasm during penetration. I have heard from some women that smaller penises normally do not last long, but large ones last longer. No idea if true just heard from a former girlfriend in her experience.
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My wife has said the same about larger lasting longer and have to admit I’ve seen first hand that they do indeed tend to last longer…
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Everyone tends to vary but mostly it’s down to stamina and technique as it is possible to train yourself to last longer 