Hello everyone, do you really enjoy being on top in positions like cowgirl, reverse cowgirl and their variations. Now i have primarily been with young women, i had a couple of more mature women over 30s and they seem to like it better, but the young ones really seem to enjoy the man do the work and they kinda avoid being on top. I know every woman is different, but this is my general observation. What do you say ?
Iām not a woman, but I have experience of having sex with women.
In my experience, which may be controversial, women who have always been ātraditionally attractiveā tend to be lazier and more āvanillaā during sex. By ālazierā I include the likelihood that theyāll just lie there like a corpse.
Those who are a bit more alternative, became more attractive at a later age, are a bit more curvy etc, again in my experience, are more likely to be (but not always) more fun in the bedroomā¦ and, to answer your question, more likely to get on top.
I donāt think itās an age thing.
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Itās a body confidence thing with meā¦I like being on top but hate my breasts and the fact that I am curvyā¦
A few drinks and my inhibitions drop and am more likely to do itā¦but for PIV orgasms it works best doggy and him on top with my legs on his shouldersā¦or him holding them apart.
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My husband wonāt let me on top, purely because it becomes a power thing for me and Iāll try to make him cum over and over, just like how he likes to make me cum over and over.
All should be fair in love and war but apparently, my husband doesnāt always agree 
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@CurvyJilly I agree with you 100%
During the day and light out, generally will be on the bottom. At night or a few drinks in me, Iām on top. I love being on top, but needs to be the right setting
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Im glad you wrote this! I dont often get the chance either as im bossed about in the bedroom!
Even doggy is only a finisher as i know it takes him 0.5 secs to cum, especially when i thrust against him 
i love the power though, just not allowed it.
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Funny thing is I love the power but if I had a partner who wants me to Domme, Iād scuttle out of there so fast. I only want it when I donāt have it - once I have it, I donāt want it anymore
I will admit that I donāt really want it, but I usually have to be pushed to a point where Iāll admit that I donāt really want control 
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Im the same, i dont really want it either, but its good to keep him on his toes, makes the next time better, i usually get a (gentle) hand around the throat so i cant turn around again
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Around here, we call that āDaddyās collarā
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@SexyBack
I am not a big fan of vaginal penetration- I prefer anal and then more doggy style - but when we do - I always ride on top to control speed and angle - this allows me to enjoy and it allows him to stay firm longer
Prefer the lady on top for me but love a great doggy
I do like being on top, I always loved his reaction to me and I know he loved my body he would almost become giddy with joy at having everything within reach of his hands or mouth. I canāt stay on top for too long as my knees get sore.
I think the issue with women being on top is mostly a confidence thing, but also that they donāt know what to do or how to move. Porn has women bouncing in a squat position, do you have any idea how difficult that is?! Unless someone has liquid knees, thats hard to maintain.
Also some women and men think that they have to move for the mans pleasure. You donāt, at all. I prefer grinding bc that does a lot for me and he enjoys it too but more bc heās enjoying my reaction.
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I love being on top, if Iām in the mood.
I usually start by face sitting my man until he has me very wet. Then Iāll slide down his body and mount his penis and ride him hard. It doesnāt take long for him to cum in this position. He will then pleasure me with his fingers until I cum.
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My wife liked getting on top more when we were younger. She still likes it but broke her knee cap around 10 years ago and finds it hard and hurts her knee now when on topā¦
No, not really. The sensation is good but the view for him concerns me as Iām no model. I much prefer other positions where my shape isnāt on display so much.
Body confidence issues in a big way sadly.
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@Gareth potentially controversial take, but I found myself agreeing in a way. Women Iāve been with who āknewā they were attractive usually did just lie there expecting me to do everything. Women who didnāt perceive themselves as highly attractive were more likely to try things, positions, bjās
Iāve sorta always tended to think itās been about impressing the other person. Someone who is good looking possibly doesnāt generally feel they have to make as much effort.
My wife is legit gorgeous - the first time we got together she had pursued me. We shagged for 3-hours in all positions ā¦ she told me that was a first, and it was different with me. The 2nd time we were together was the best bj Iāve had in my life - still to this day.
She still says Iām the best sheās ever had, and sheād been with a decent number before me. I love that. But I wonder if part of it is because my wife did/does want to impress me, at least more than she cared to impress other guys.
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I donāt mind going on top but I certainly donāt move like you see in the movies
However I canāt stand all them fancy positions like reverse cowgirl, more work then there worth but thatās just my opinion on them.
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I think it is controversial, but I stand by it as a general observation - for the same reason you said re less need to put in as much effort. You can have the personality of a flip flop and people will still treat you like a queen (for the most part).
Iād liken it to the way that guys who arenāt as attractive typically need to develop a sense of humour.
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ā¦ Iād never considered myself as attractive, and still donāt regardless of my wifeās efforts to convince me otherwise.
I learned the art of conversation early, I play a few instruments and sing, and have performed on many stages big and small ā¦ and my career has been in a role/industry that has seen women gravitate in my direction.
I also read books about female sexuality and anatomy, have researched the clitoris ā¦ and my wife isnāt the only one who thinks Iām their best ever sexual experience. Iām not arrogant about it, but definitely proud.
My wife love being ontop in the cowgirl position. She loves to control the tempo,depth and speed and she likes me licking,sucking and biting her nipples at the same time.
If it is a quick root, she loves to be taken from behind