We’re the same after 50 years, but we are slowly getting better at communicating or needs.
Blokes are
a) useless at picking up on hints
b) useless at giving hints.
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Yes, mine is pretty useless at hints. Before we got together, I was throwing myself at him, and he wasn’t sure if I was interested. My boobs were hanging on to decency in one outfit by a thread, and he still didn’t figure it out.
Now, I don’t hint, I just say what I want. And he’s the same. Clear communications. Better for our marriage.
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Haha I would have to agree there!
I maybe overthink, he is upfront with sexual things, I want to do x.y.z and thats that type thing and I dont mind the dominance/openness at all. I get thrown off at hints off you’d be wearing or your hair would be [ ] I sometimes think does he want me to be someone else? Or look like someone he has a fantasy about so we can carry that out? Men! And they say women are hard to understand 
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I remember a time when he tried to get me to wear a particular type of dress. I knew it would look crap, but eventually, just to shut him up, I tried one on.
He was right, it looked fabulous. I do buy that type of dress more now.
I would say the “overthinking” is what is saying that he wants you to be someone else. He’s with you. He loves you. But sometimes, it is fun to do something different.
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That is so so true.In the past it is just like @KinkyMira says,apart from jumping on top of me she couldn’t have made it more obvious but still it took me time to realise 
Well so long as hes not trying to re create his manager who has curly hair, we are all good 
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@aziegmann … Quite simply, sit her down and have a frank conversation. Ask what she wants and you tell her what youd like…30 min chat and all out in the open…you can then focus on each others kinks and passions.
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