Recently some friends have had a disacussion about Dom Brats. What’s your take? What goes into seeing a Dom as a Brat? I’ve been given some thoughst but wanted to see what this group thinks about it.
For me, it’s about the energy rather than what is actually done. It’s a teasing, taunting, playful kind of vibe that isn’t seductive but that stops short of being truly sadistic. And is obviously a long way away from disciplinarian!
Lots of denial, frustration, “I’m technically giving you what you asked for/you didn’t give specific enough instructions”, “oh no! Completely accidentally, my only working playlist only contains music you don’t like” etc
I’m going to say no. I have two devilish Dominants in my life – my recently appointed “teddy bears” 
– and they’re both wicked, playful and some might say bratty. To me though, “brat” implies that they switch – my Dominants do not.
So maybe if they switch then I can see how that could work, but otherwise it just sounds a bit ridiculous and like another label for something people don’t fully understand. I like playful, loving Dominants, but they’re just Dominants to me.
A dom, being the brat. No I haven’t. Unless they were a switch.
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@Calie I may or may not understand your interpretation. 
Hmmmm, that may be on point regarding being a Switch or not. But that also brings up a perception about Men who Switch not really being Dominants. I’ve had to disuade a couple of people about that. Men and Women.
As far as the whole brat thing, I’m not sure I’d describe myself that way but my friends seem tosee something else. Why I will never know. Oh, and your “two appointed teddy bears” JSMH
Seems to be a pattern to the thought here.
Every day is a school day on this forum, didn’t have a clue what the hell you’re discussing but learning fast.
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I’m finding the same thing
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It’s great though isn’t it?
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I mean… there’s nuance there. Not really Dominants? No, because fully-Doms don’t switch. Dom switch though? Absolutely – It means they lean more to Domination than submission.
The ones that make my eye twitch are the ones who call themselves “Dominates”. I have to remind myself that everyone starts somewhere 
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Oh how I would love to flesh the thought about Dominants don’t switch. Truth be told, I have never used the word Dominant as a descriptor for myself. But then the whole BDSM / Ds / Kink nomenclature has always escaped me.
I am definatley a Top leaning Switch and the amount goes back and forth. And haven been around since God was a baby I’ve seen way too many people taken the Dominant label when they clearly were not or were more predator pouser causing harm that it made me blanch.
Of course if they actually understood the difference between Dominate and Dominant…just sayin…
I’ve seen “playful” Doms before, one who acts almost like a school yard bully. That’s probably the closest I can think of to a Dom Brat. I’ve also found brats calling Dom’s a “brat” is a classic teasing technique to try and get a reaction from their Dom.
But I think the control requirement of being a Dom means you have to be a bit more level headed than acting bratty. It also goes against the inherent control freak nature that we have 
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This has made me think of a name for a Dom munch, “Domimates”
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See now you throw extra labels into the mix. I see myself more as a Service Top than a Switch too – I can Domme, and some might even say I’m quite good at what I do, but it’s not where I prefer to be. Submission has this magnetic draw for me that’s quite hard for me to describe. Ibhave all this responsibility, and it’s like climbing into a warm, cosy bed at the end of a long day.
I definitely know the predator types too. I’ve encountered them myself, unfortunately.
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Maybe I’m being pedantic here, but I served a “Dom” for a time who really did behave like a school bully and it was just… “Sir, whafever this is, I’m not buying it”. He wouldn’t tell me straight, say, “you look dishevelled, go and tidy up”, he would say something like “you )ook like you’ve been dragged through a thorn bush” or “do you even know what a hairbrush looks like?”. My feelings were my problem too – he didn’t care if he hurt me.
I have two Dominant partners now who tease me – and I them – but they would kick themselves if they hurt me. They tease me, and I them, but if something hurts, it’s a hard nope.
And yes, I call them both brats. Not to get a reaction – “teddy bear” is my new gold standard for that – but just because… well, they’re both brats 
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See you missed a trick here. If it was a munch with a meal, you have “Domin-eats”.
Though I realise there are some Dominants would think that means eating something other than pizza, so that may be a terrible idea…
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Service Top is a useful skill. The fact you can summon up your Domme energy does nothing to minimize your natural submissive self. The fact that you are good at both speaks to your feel of the energy it takes for for both parts to exist.
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