Welcome to the forum @Jaybwalters, I am sure that you are finding it a great space to share your sexual interests and get advice etc.
With regard to your question, being a single male, I obviously can’t answer from a women’s perspective what they get out of wishing to dominate a man. What I would say however is why not just accept that this is something that excites and interests you and enjoy it in whatever way is possible for you?
I enjoy similar thoughts to you and fantasise about having a strict mistress who keeps me in my place. We all have different ways of getting our pleasure, as you will no doubt see from the various discussions on this forum, and that’s ok. Hopefully this forum will provide the opportunity for you to be open about what you enjoy in this respect rather than feeling that you need to hide it.