Hi all… I’m a 36 year old male that has been struggling with his feelings towards being dominated by females… I love it, it’s a passion, but I feel I have to hide it inside. All I’ve seen is online videos that don’t seem realistic, so I’m wondering, do any woman out there actually want to dominate men, and if so, what’s the turn on? I’d like to know that my desires are validated from the other side, that strong woman do actually really enjoy playing the dominant role… Otherwise, it all feels like an act.
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Helloooooo
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I like to dominate men, not too heavily for me, not in ways you see in porn for example.
I like to peg men, something such a turn on to see them moan with pleasure and for me to be controlling that in a different way to normal.
I like tying men up and bossing them around a bit.
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We have a very soft domination when a female friend joins us as a threesome she will tell us what to do and say your not allowed to come yet. We love her being in control of us.
Its very soft core and not like domination in porn that is not really our thing.
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Hello and Welcome 
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My wife is my domme.
It wasn’t very natural state but she’s growing into the role more and more as we progress.
It started with female led male chastity and strict orgasm control but we’ve now completely reversed roles sexually and domestically so I get pegged frequently, get whipped, caned etc regularly and I serve her sexually as she wishes.
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Hello and welcome!
Ex-Domme turned switch here, yes! I used to love it, the only reason I went switch is because I fell in love with a man (who identifies as fully Dominant) and I realised how fun it is on “the other side” too. I can Domme, but it’s also fun to sub - I’m good with both!
Did I enjoy it? Abso-freaking-lutely! I’m a damned Goddess and men should feel honoured to be in my presence 
I feel and believe it’s a confidence thing and some don’t fully believe in themselves or their worth, thus creating this “acting” feeling you describe. Unfortunately, being a good Dom is a lot more than just picking up a whip - you have to believe you deserve to be worshipped, too.
Good luck, and I hope you have fun on the forum 
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Think you’ll find this is a much bigger thing than other men would have you realise as majority of guys at some point will go through a phase or enjoy wanting to be dominated.
There’s quite a few members on here who love it so hopefully they’ll reach out to you to talk about stuff 
Also welcome to the forum! 
@Jaybwalters
As a woman I do enjoy dominating my husband as for me I consider it’s a similar feeling for a man to be dominated as it is for a woman to dominate as its role reversal
If you want to try it - speak to your partner
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What kind of things do you enjoy doing to your husband when your in control
@BigT99 - we enjoy spanking as well as pegging - these are good dominant traits
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That’s what I love to be done to me honestly, soft power play. Maybe online domination has twisted my perception of what is caring and loving, but still within the ballpark of dom
To be honest, we were more explorative early on. I think watching online porn has really broken my perception of what Dom can be… Should maybe take a break and recalibrate. this is why I asked the question though, I want to reset my expectations of what Dom can be
Thanks! I’ve also fancied dabbling on the other side of the Dom scale… Some daddy tips (what is pleasing to a female sub) would be useful
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You may find these pages from our blog helpful 
* Some Do’s & Don’ts Of Domination
- What’s Your Kink? Daddy Dom
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That sounds amazing.
Haha why thankyoilu
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It appears my comment overstepped the mark.
Apologies to all.