Hi everyone
Me and my wife have been enjoying some new things lately! She has really started to love anal play MORE! so I want to surprise her, but need all of your help
I want to buy a strap on to give her the option of some DP has anyone had this experience and does the strap on fit ok on a man?
There are a number of toys specifically designed for this, of which, we have a couple. If you search “Double Fun” on the shopping site at least 5 come up. My personal favourite (and happens to be on sale at the moment) is this one, because I like the feel of the beads going in and out. There are bigger options without the beads available. I think this is a good option, though, if you’re relatively new to DP and not looking for massive stretch.
We’ve got a similar toy to what peitho suggests and it works great!
If you wanted to go longer and use pure toys there are straps designed for a penis to be out of the way, although I haven’t found a comfortable one yet for vigorous thrusting…
You could look at any of the uni-sex designed harnesses LH currently has on sale.
Our first strap-on harness we used was the Doc Johnson Ultra harness. Its uni-sex design allowed either myself and my wife to wear it (depending on our chosen purpose). We found it particularly useful as an aid for DP (without the introduction to a third party).
We also like (and use) both the following budget-friendly harnesses:
Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo
BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit 6 Inch
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/strap-ons/strap-on-kits/p/basics-strap-on-harness-kit-6-inch/a47966g85677.html
The harness’ uni-sex friendly design leaves the genitals and anus exposed.
For male wearers, the two straps of the leg loops sit snugly either side of the scrotum allowing the wearer’s use of the dildo, penis, or both (in simultaneous use), according to requirement.
With a few minor adjustments of the straps, the harness can be positioned high on the pubic area allowing for the penis to be employed as we wish.
I sense your erect penis might get in the way if trying to wear a strap on but I’m sure there must be some what are compatible to this…
That was my initial thought, and I don’t want to buy and return until I find one that is right.
The ones @Himeros1 has posted look good! We have one and it took a bit experimenting at first, but found that works best is missionary with me in her ass and the dildo in her V.
When you first strap in you’ll understand the meaning of the phrase “feeling like a dog with two dicks”!!
I’d also recommend using a dildo that has no balls as they get in the way, and something a bit shorter than you. The dildo sits higher on your pubic bone, so it gets an extra inch. Unless that’s something she desires of course!
Happy stuffing!
Oh I’ll add, we talked the other night of trying it with her wearing the harness but with the dildo facing in, so it’s just plugged in her ass. Something to try when we’re home from our honeymoon (only brought a handful of toys with us).
Have you tried doing an internet search to see if anything comes up as I’m sure there’s other guys on the hunt for this too and would have posted online in places with what they’ve found
We recently added this cockring/strap-on to mix up the options. It’s okay. And I’ll get into why.
We’ve been having regular anal almost exclusively with DP. It’s been very rare that we have anal without a dildo in wife’s vagina. The absolute fullness and squeezing is part of the pleasure for her. And while we do occasionally use a plug to warm up her ass for me, we’ve not historically used dildos for anal. She’s held the perspective that if she’s putting something in her ass she wants it to be me so I can get the full scope of pleasure for her discomfort (and to be clear: over time we have got from “oh, that hurts a little but it’s kinky so I’ll bear it” to “it really doesn’t hurt any more and sometimes I like it” to for a couple years now “it feels so good to be stretched and full and I crave it”).
So anyway - we picked this up to try mixing it up and see if she’d like having this in her ass while I’m in her vaginally, the rabbit head on her clit. It’s a little tricky for positioning as it’s not really that long. Our default missionary is usually with her legs closed and my legs on the outside so that it’s a little more like Coital Alignment. She gets a little more of my shaft rubbing on her clit and a little less depth of penetration which is more comfortable most days. So in that position, this didn’t really stay in as much. So we mixed it up and played with placing pillows and cushions to fix angles and that worked. But at the end of it she really just was like, “I want a bigger cock in my ass than this.”
It’s fun for warming up a bit for anal and we’ll keep using it that way. Could be worth using.
Most of the time we do anal it is a doggy/prone style position, so we haven’t tried a harness. I do like using a longer than normal dildo so there’s more for me to hold on to and reacharound to do the thrusting, just not to the hilt. That works most of the time. We do rarely face-to-face anal and in that case she does just like that every time I thrust in my pubis does press the dildo firmer and deeper into her vagina. She likes that just a little more than long in and outs anyway. The thing that’s missing, and easier to accomplish from behind with a reacharound dildo action is that sensation of the head really just breaching in and out and down into the gspot a little and then a big thrust to push her over the edge. So that’s our story.
Otherwise, look to the other comments for harnesses that might give some thrust.