Hi, i have only just found this forum and this is my first post, so i apologise if my post is to long or to graphic.
Well i guess i should start by saying that me and my gf are in a loveing committed relationship, and for some background info i am 24 and she is 18, i am quite experienced sexually and she was a virgin when we got together (and so she has only ever had one sexual partner), Also we are both open minded sexually, and have tried out just about everything each other would like to try, and if it helps to know she is a submissive and likes to be dominated.
A couple of months ago my gf told me she would like to have a 3some (being spitroasted) and was also keen on the idea of double penertration, i told her at the time i wasnt interested and she quickly said how she had only been jokeing, i knew that she wasnt but let the matter rest there. Recently i noticed she had been watching a lot of dp based porn and so we decided to talk about it again. She told me how dp had been a fantasy of her for as long as she could remember and that it would be fun to try, and also went on to tell me that haveing a 3some and being spitroasted used to be a fantasy of hers but that it wasnt anymore and that her fantasy was now just haveing dp.
I am happy with the idea of a 3some and altho dp isnt something that i am keen on i could probally be convinced to try it, but not with my gf as i have such strong feelings for her. Btw i am not saying i would have a 3some now, because i wouldnt cheat on my gf but i mean the idea of it interests me if i wasnt with my gf i would happily try it. Also we do practice dp regualry with toys etc but never with another man.
Ok so here are my issues :D
I find it hard to believe that haveing a 3some and being spitroasted is no longer a fantasy of her's, as i believe she just said she had gone off the idea soley because i didnt want to, just like when she said she was jokeing a couple of months ago after we originally spoke about it. Does anyone who has similair fantasy's have any thoughts about this?
My biggest issue however is this, my gf wants dp by means of being f***ed by 2 men, not just me alone with toys involved, and this is somehtng i am finding very hard to deal with, and it is driving a wedge between us at the momnet and i fear it will drive us apart. In my opinion when you love someone you dont want to be with anyone else, and the fact that she wants to sleep with another man really does bother me.
She claims she would never do it anyway, altho i think she just says that because i said i dont want to do it. She also says she thinks it is degradeing and whoreish (her word not mine, so sorry if it causes anyone any offense), but at the same time says she thinks it would be fun to try, and im sure if i agreed to it she would want to try it out..
Sorry to waffle on but i felt as much info as possible would make it easier to offer advice, and for like minded women to understand better what she is thinking and so be able to give me a better insight.
I think why i am finding it so hard to deal with is that she keeps contradicting herself. She says she loves the idea of me being the only man she ever sleeps with, that she wouldnt do dp with 2 guys because she thinks it is degradeing and whoreish, but at the same time she says she thinks it would be fun to try and really likes the idea of it.
So does anyone have any advice for me, and can any like minded people help me understand how she is thinking?
Altho she says she would never do it, i find this hard to beleiev and think that if the oppertunity presented itself she might well try it out, as in my experience people do make their sexual fantasises come true (or at least i did) Is that a fair thought to have? Can like minded people tell me if it is easy enough to obstain from doing it?
Also can any likeminded people tell me, is this just a submissive thing (as she is a submissive), and more about being dominated by 2 men? Or is it more about haveing all holes filled so to speak?
Lastly, i am really distressed by the fact that she wants to sleep with another guy (even tho she says she never would), and it is causeing problems between us. Am i being completely unreasonable by being bothered and hurt by it? Afterall we all have fantasy's, but i just cant seem to accept she wants to have sex with another man.
Sorry for such a long post but i had to vent, and sorry for so many questions but this is new ground to me.
All advice welcome, and i am particulary interested to here from women who also fantasise about or that practice dp, any insight to what she is thinking or advice you can offer me would be great.
I am also interested to hear from other men about what they would think if there committed partner that they were in a loveing relationship with wanted to have sex with another man, would it bother you and be a big issue to you? (like i said if it was just some girl it wouldnt bother me, its just that we are in a committed relationship and that i have strong feeling s for her that it such an issue)
Finally does anyone have any advice on what osrt of questions i can ask her for when we speak about it next time, we are very open with each other, so speaking about it inst going to be an issue for us, i just dont know what sort of things to ask and say.
I look forward to your advice/comments