Hi All,
Going through quite a dry spell, I wanted to know from you all what your longest dry spell was and how it ended… (i.e. what happened, new relationship, one off time, etc)
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Roughly 6 months I think 
Hubby saved me from an abusive relationship. Put me back together again, piece by piece. Taught me how to trust and love for the first time.
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That’s really wonderful to hear! Glad that you got to a better place after meeting your hubby x
Probably a couple of years for me when I separated from my husband. Though that was easy, I didn’t want anything to do with men or love.
I think the hardest dry spell was after a break up last year. It was out of the blue and I was heartbroken and it was about 5 months before I was able to be with anyone again and luckily an old fwb stepped in to help me out. Still took another 2 months before I could kiss anyone again.
It was a horrible time but it was the best thing for me.
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Over five years a couple of times. The first was easy enough as I wasn’t in a relationship and was focussing on other things in my life, so it didn’t cause me much angst. Second time was in a long-term relationship and was so painful and frustrating. There were other things going on too, but I dealt with it largely by shutting down that side of myself as I thought it would never change. It did, eventually, but it was never great. That relationship later ended and I’m glad to be in a much better partnership now.
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For me I’ve had spells last months usually down to not getting and space to have me time.
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I think the longest we’ve gone is 6 weeks but then we’d do it once and it might have been another 2 weeks and so on after that so for me that was a dry spell.
I was bleeding for 7 months due to a reaction to birth control, hated my body, was nearly constantly having a migraine or a headache and was generally just so unwell and fatigued. I wanted sex and so did he but we didn’t communicate properly so he was uncomfortable having sex knowing I was in pain and tired, and I thought he hated my body as much as I hated my body, and this went on for too long because we didn’t talk about it.
Eventually I just couldn’t take it any more feeling so disconnected from him and we had a big conversation that aired a lot of things out, not only the massive misunderstanding but also prior baggage we were carrying.
That was the short version lol. All in all it taught us a lot about communication.
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We’ve been in a dry spell for a few months now.
By dry spell I mean; we’d have sex once then not again for a few weeks. It’s a vicious cycle of just random sex weeks/months apart.
I have decided to have sex with my OH once a day when we’re together. We’re in a long term relationship (married for over 10 years), have children and live in a multigenerational household with lots of added stress.
Thankfully, 
, my husband is on board!