My bf just told me one of his sexual fantasies is edging, and he likes countdowns and teasing and permission kinda stuff…
I’m not familiar with this kind of play, so would love some ideas from some more experienced Lovehoney members!
Also, can I incorporate my vibrating cock ring into play with edging?
Thanks all 
Hello 
Yes, edging is great! I do it most of the time when I masturbate.
It’s just a matter or learning when he’s about to cum, and stopping just before. It’s perhaps easier for him to say, whilst you are learning.
Countdowns are always good fun, there are plenty of videos to get ideas from. I must admit, I do find it really hard not to cum when your not supposed to!! So a bit of patience will probably be needed!
The orgasm is always more intense, and the amount of cum is always more after edging.
I don’t see why you couldn’t use a cock ring, obviously being vibrating that will give him some added pleasure too, as well as the obvious of keeping hard!
Is he into ruined orgasms? That’s something else to look into maybe? It’s sometimes used as ‘punishment’ if you cum too early.
Hope my ramblings have helped a little bit!
Flip-flop 
Yeah that’s really helpful!
I’m going to ask him to tell me when he’s close as I learn his body more, I have a fairly good idea but I wanna fulfil his fantasies as best I can
Ruined orgasms sound interesting! I’ll defo look into that. It’s interesting though cause he sometimes has trouble orgasming so the fact that he’d enjoy edging or ruined orgasms baffles me a bit… maybe he likes the idea of someone else having control over it?
I’m about to go watch some videos now!
Hi what are the best videos to watch on edging
I accidentally stumbled across a “Jerk Off Instruction” (JOI) video yesterday and I was intrigued. It may be worth checking those out as they sound, or at least the one I watched was, similar to what your boyfriend desires.
You could use the Squeeze Technique " The squeeze technique is a form of ejaculatory control. It allows you to near the point of climax and then back off suddenly by holding/squeezing the tip of the penis until the sensation subsides. Not sure if it would work with a cock ring but you will have fun trying.
As a fan of this kind of play the key is practise and lube. In conjunction with some communication you learn the signs when someone is about to orgasm and how close you can get before stopping. There are plenty of videos out there but many focus on a ruined orgasm which is a subtly different experience.
I am a big fan of tease/denial/ruin play and the feeling when someone does this a fantastic and as others have said the moment of release is way more spectacular.
And there are videos (I know they aren’t nowadays) on Pornhub and the like with timing rhythms for strokes while watching porn. You could be the stroker and he could try and control himself?
If you’re going to edge him you need a lubricant which won’t dry out. A silicone lube or just baby oil will do the job. He’ll get sore without lube.
@For_Your_Eyes_Only_x Yes I came across those too but didn’t watch one, I did find some others though that were excellent
@DLJL I’ve never heard of that but I’ll give it a go!
@Colonel_Lube that’s really useful, I’m really excited to try it with him… I do enjoy domination so I’m gonna combine the two (they seem to go well together anyway!)
@Private_member yeah I’ve been watching those, I’m not sure I’d want to watch the videos with my partner but they’ve been useful!
@rockstar I’ll get some baby oil soon then
I just want to chime in with…PATTERNS! People always complain about not using patterns on their various vibrators, but these are really excellent for edging fun!
Loved the reference to JOI @For_Your_Eyes_Only_x - one of our favourites!
We partake in edge play when the mood takes us - edging for both of us (not at the same time!) it’s a fantastic way to get into power exchange. We use a doxy or Lovehoney delux wand as they seems ideal for this - both for him and her.
We must remember ruined orgasms - something he has been interested in for a while but that we’ve never got round to. Seems a waste to get there and then ruin it. Ho hum.
@fracturedflower Ooooh I hadn’t thought about patterns… I’ll remember that when I’m playing with the cock ring with him!
@broom yeah I’m quite excited to finally get round to it with him, I’m sure we will enjoy that power exchange!
I tried edging him, but it didn’t go well cause apparently he had had 3 orgasms the day before (one with me, two in excitement of seeing me 
) and was spent 
I couldn’t really get him close enough without my hand giving out!
We’ve all been there 
Haha I guess it comes with the territory! If he can restrain himself I think I’ll be much more successful next time… I’m tempted to put in punishments to make sure he’s ready for it when it comes (excuse the pun) next time…
A chastity cage may help?
A cage will definitely help. After being locked up and denied an orgasm for a while he’ll be hyper sensitive and perfect for edging.
This! People always moaning about the patterns but dont give them a go.
My design a sexy toy had something to do with patterns and edging and ruined orgasms but I think people pooh pooh it with statements like (thats my idea of hell) I urge everyone to try it 
