So yeah, basically when it comes to intercourse I can only ejaculate once, if i'm lucky I can erect but can never finish. Is this normal? I'm in my late 20's.
Is there anything I can do so I can cum more than once? sometimes I feel like I'm letting my wife down.
if you can stay erect after coming the first time you wont be letting your wife down.a tip would be not to ejaculate inside your wife for your first orgasm as this will make her extra slippery and you might not get the level of stimulation you need to cum again.
I usually ejaculate several times but sometimes I find that I just can't go anymore after the first one. When I'm having moments where I can't go more than once I find that using a cock ring helps me to go numerous times, since you'll still be hard for long enough after your first ejaculation to be able to continue with intercourse long enough to come again.
It is very hard for men, in general (There are some who can) to stay erect after the first and continue to a second. I have only experienced it rarely in the 15 years I have been sexually active and it was usually when the guy was super duper horny, above and beyond his usual horniness. Even then it would often go softer for a few minutes and then build back up again.
The most common multiple male orgasm in one night (In my experience) is where he ejaculates and we just chill out, maybe do stuff to me for a while and then after half hour so so we start on him again. In that time he has gone soft and is recovering. This is still reasonably difficult but happens more commonly than the first example, where it is all within one session.
My tip: You have fingers, mouth, tongue and maybe sex toys? Either way, speaking as a woman, I am not disappointed in the fact that my guy can only pound away at me for a few minutes. To be honest he has many ways to please me, with aforementioned body parts, that feel just as good, if not better. After all, a penis cannot move in circles, or hit specific pin pint spots like his fingers and tongue can. Don't get me wrong, I love sexual intercourse too, but what i am saying is that it isn't the be all and end all. It is just another part of lovemaking. Actually about 70% of our sessions do not end in sexual intercourse, as foreplay to us...IS sex. oral sex is sex, fingers wandering and pleasuring is sex, talking and acting out fantasies is sex...you get the picture.
You are not unusual by the way. The average amount of time a man can last during sexual intercourse, without stopping himself, is about 3 to 5 minutes. I have only ever known one man who could go on and on and on....and I found it rather boring! Give me a minute man anyday. Do you know how sexy it is to know that your partner is so horny with you, that he can barely hold on? Over time though, it is possible to learn some techniques to last longer. My partner can have intercourse with me now for up to half an hour, but trust me, there is a lot of stopping and starting involved, and it is very sexy to me.
If interested, google "ways to stop premature ejaculation and find information on things like the "stop-start" method, or squeezing methods, learn about the pelvic floor muscles and how controlling them will leave you with much more control of your orgasm. It takes practise, but if you really want to go longer, these are the ways to do it.
Good luck!
thanks for the advice guys, timing is never usually an issue, I can last 5-10 minutes usually (you have those days when it's over and done with in 2 minutes as i'm to worked up lol!) I will look into cock rings and read up about pelvic floor excerises, mind you excerise will do me good :)
If you do it by yourself, sure you can do it 4-5 times, if it is with a woman guess it depends on how fit you are. I can't do it more than once unless there is a little rest inbetween. Anyway she probably won't like it that much - if you don't come, no matter how hard you are, or how many orgasms she has - If you don't both get there.... your lady will not like it
I can stay erect after cumming but I loose all interest in doing anymore but as long as my partner is satisfied it doesn't matter
Since swinging id say i have met 3/4 men who can just cum, stay erect then go again, my partner was able to do it when we first met but as hes got older its become harder to do.
However like Fluff says depending on how horny and turned on he is, hes been able to do it alot more recently whislt still staying hard. We do use a mix of cock rings though as he find it helps.
My husband can but only if
1. He comes in any 1 session via a variety of methods (so say 1st oral, 2nd hand and finale vaginal). NOT that 3in 1 session is common!
2. We take breaks in between
to be honest I don't care how many times he comes as long as he is enjoying himself, it's impossible for me to come more than once in a session so anything past 1 is just my way of pleasuring him as much as possible
Depending on how horny and turned on I am, I can sometimes cum multiple times.
My oh has never been able to come more than once in one 'session'. If we have a break from stimulating him and focus on me or just chat for a while etc then he can go again but never straight off the bat like that! Tbh I'm not sure I'd want him to lol
On ocassion I can manage to come twice in the same session, it's certainly not the norm though...
You do stay erect after you cum, but for me it only last for a short while - even if you are inside missy
usually can go more than once and sometimes we plan it that way.
as some of the other comments say usually by a variety of ways. Indeed, wife made me cum 4 times in one session and the last time i think is the closest i have cum to knowing whats it like when a female cums. Massive head rush and tingled all over x
I've been having multiple wet releases per session for a longer while now, though that is during a session with large (and then larger) backdoor toys. Usually 2-5, sometimes several more, the latter progressively drier. That said, my frontend has ever been capable of just one ;)
Hubby can come more than once sometimes, but there has to be a distinct break between the two
I was once with a guy who was able to cum 9 times in less than 24 hrs.....I kid u not....we were in r early 20s an he was fry horny......but my current husband can only go once and thats him for a few days let alone a few hrs....lol
I don't think nine times in a 24hr period is unusual (although my current partner gets sore after the seventh) and I'm over 50.
What I would say is up until three or four years ago I could not continue without a break, I found while using a Tenga Flip I could keep on going after coming and now is easy to replicate with my partner.
Perhaps you get to a point in life where you are just trying to enjoy being with someone and not worrying about how good you are performing.
I've always had the problem that after coming my penis head becomes very sensitive and has to come out and so the moment gets lost and subsequently go soft. It's taken a year or two to do, but by using condoms and penis extensions I've managed to overcome that sensitivity and stay in.
The penis extensions are good because they reduce your overall stimulation and let you hammer away for longer, and avoid the oversensitivity on orgasm. Some gentle thrusting (very gentle) then allows me to keep the erection and after, say, five minutes I'm ready to go again.
OH finds the extension gets her to orgasm quickly so we've had to take things slowly. In the last week we've managed to keep going for me to come four times without a break - just the gently thrusting after each.
Sensitivity doesn't seem to be the issue (I found a penis pump helped stretch my foreskin to help with entry). Perhaps just some personal play to last longer and work up to repeating when you are relaxed and don't feel you are trying to prove anything?