Hmmm it’s persistence really that counts but yeh the njoy pure is a good one esp with a wand added to the mix …
Njoy pure are very expensive haha 
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Expensive but worth it. Christmas is coming up so maybe consider it a Christmas present for her 
Think she would batter me round the head with it if I did haha
How do you even use it just in and out or rock on it ???
This is terrible advice. If someone says ‘stop’ then you must stop.
If you’re not sure if stop means stop in these situations, then you must have a conversation beforehand and establish some safe words so both parties know exactly when ‘stop’ is. Please don’t just wing it in the moment.
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I don’t mean force it Ian - I mean sort of encourage her to continue . Safe words are a super idea!
Let me reword this - listen to what she says but perhaps have a chat and explain you’d like to go further if she can manage it.
Apologies if you see it as bad advice - follow your heart ?
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My wife has only squirted once, after an extended period of teasing play while she was tied up and I was using her Womanizer on her. She’s said that she doesn’t generally like the feeling that led up to it - she doesn’t like the direct G-spot “gonna pee” feeling at all, and while she loves her Womanizer she has mentioned she feels like she has to “fight against it” - but that it was an incredibly intense orgasm for her.
So, I would just encourage open communication, but not pressuring. I love having my way with wifey, tying her down, pushing how many orgasms she can have, but often times she prefers to be one-and-done. Often the best encouragement or conversations around what’s hot for you is outside the bedroom when it’s less of a pressuring.
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Obviously first off see if she wants too and if its something she enjoys… if it is but shes just getting a mental block then take that element away (my OH was the same). Give her mind something else to think about, what worked for us was having a waterproof sheet down, tieing her up and blind folded with a gag. (have the house heating up high as the sheets tend to be cold) left hand pressing down on her abdomen gentle but firmly and use your fingers to play with her gspot, then you just have to go “floor to celling” with curved fingers and bobs your uncle. 
She was very surprised it when it first happened and since then shes done it virtually every time with ease as the mental block has gone. It also helps if she hydrates lots before hand.
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This is much better advice. 
Have a conversation beforehand, and discuss what she would be willing to do when the moment arises. Whether she wants to continue further than she normally would is up to her - and make sure she has an unambiguous way to tell you to stop right now so you don’t have to guess and maybe upset everyone.
Some people just don’t see the allure of squirting, so be prepared for this fantasy to stay as just that. If your partner doesn’t want to explore it then that is their choice.
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Erm rock and in and out but basically massage against the g spot
Agreed but talk about it - explain when she says “no more” if you’d be allowed to go past that .
Add a safe word perhaps so no means … it’s getting uncomfy but carry on whereas the safe word means STOP.
I do think it’s about losing control - I can see now other people have achieved this when tied up and restrained and I think that’s also key.
Yup, the only time my wife has squirted she was tied up and she described it as having been too tired out to hold it back any more - I think she’d cum once or twice already and had some lengthy teasing. I think she normally also keeps her Womanizer around level 2-3 when she’s in control and I like to push her to the max 6 or 8 (I can’t remember how many speeds on the Pro40) and down again.
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Exactly it’s about losing control and having someone else be in control. Literally just mentioned these posts to my husband who said “the only way it works for you is for it to be sort of forced because otherwise you’d stop”…
He said “tied up, blindfolded and hand over the keys of control”
Our advice (I say ours as this is now being discussed at my kitchen table lol) is to talk talk talk, have a few drinks, relax and ask her to allow you to take control …
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This literally is me and hubby too, I squirted for the first time with my womanizer and it was hubby that made it happen, I was embarrassed at first, but he found it a turn on. I too get to that stage of saying stop but I don’t actually want him to, and he does know when I actually want him to stop or keep going. But we’ve never got to that stage of him stopping 
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Evening my OH has been blessed with the ability to squirt and its sooooo hot. It first happened one time during penetrative sex whilst in cowgirl before we were married and its gone on from there. Still happens in that position but not as much usually from face sitting or using @Mr-Mrs-Sexy technique 
Also @FortySomethingWife advice totally spot on too 
No pressure just get her to relax and enjoy
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So glad you found my advice spot on - felt a little scolded !
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You and me also…I am all about making my wife cum…it sounds like you guys are in the right place then…just need to figure out how to get across the line while involving you.
I can also recommend the Womanizer…makes my wife coin ridiculously quickly! - maybe (with her consent) tie her arms up and ask her to submit to you totally…and let it come! 
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I also think she needs to submit control - that way whatever happens isn’t in her control anyhow … if that makes sense?
Towels down, music on, darkened room, lots of toys, ask if she’d allow you to tie her up / restrain her, blind fold on, tons of sensual play then seriously … just don’t stop. It’s having her allow you to cross that moment when she thinks she needs to stop because it’s literally just after that.
Like we’ve said already have a safe word and encourage her to allow you to take full control. Don’t rush it, it can take quite some time. Have fun!
Top toys are a wand (on full blast), a womaniser, and an njoy …
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My misses will only fully squirt when I use my middle and ring finger up and down (rather than in and out) fast and hard on her G spot while my palm stimulate her outside.
Works every time, the rougher I am the more she squirts.
The gets wet being rough but what I’ve found tips her over is when my palm is also going up and down on her cliterous simultaneously.
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