Hi all don’t know if this has been covered before but
My OH can squirt but feel like she some times holds back from this. I don’t know if this is due to embarrassment or what.
I that’s told her that it is a big turn on for me when she dose and normally only dose this when using clit stimulation and finger play.
How can I fully get my OH to let go and encourage her to fully squirt like I know she can.
I can’t squirt but does she have toys that can help her squirt? She might find it difficult to squirt with just fingers and other body parts 
The metal wands I’ve heard are good for squirting but they are quite expensive.
Invest in a couple of packs of cheap puppy training pads ,use them on the bed to avoid a soaked bed .It might just help her relax a little more.
If she’s holding back she may be worried about mess, so puppy pads, towels or plastic sheets could help?
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Thanks guys
What sort of things is best to say to push or let go
I don’t really want to bring the subject up before as then will be putting pressure on her to squirt when most says need to be relaxed
Hi @Pmcgc84 i would honestly say that you need to just talk this through with your OH as if she’s not ‘Into it’ then it’s not likely to happen. As you said, if there’s pressure to perform then it’ll likely be a barrier.
I’ve learned this the hard way - I have the tendency to get over excited when wanting to try something new…I’d love
My OH to squirt, and reckon we’ve got close before but when she gets that feeling she stops as it feels wierd and currently it’s not on her radar to achieve this for herself - and if she was only really ‘performing’ for me then it likely wouldn’t happe as she’s feel under pressure.
So i reckon have the conversation first, check she’s as keen as you and then cross the bridges as to what’s stopped her before. If it is the mess then as others have said, towels or puppy pads might be the answer. But if it’s something else then just have an open conversation about whether you can move forward with it.
Good luck tho…I hope she’s as keen to hit that milestone as you’d like her to be! I’m hoping one day we might be able to as well!
She is keen as when we doing things and using things and I ask her to squirt for me and she is like make me then so she is up for it but when coming to the point where she is about to squirt feels like she is holding it in rather than just letting it cum out and enjoy the whole experience
I get off more getting her to climax and cum amd love seeing her squirt
Mental blocks aren’t always the easiest to over come so the best thing to do is to almost just drop the subject. Make sure she is relaxed and enjoying herself when you play and let it happen naturally. When it happens, let her know you found it hot (particularly while it is happening) but otherwise don’t put too much emphasis on it.
I squirt more and easier when I’m not thinking about it, so a partner saying “squirt for me” or something would probably have the opposite effect (same with orgasming to be fair)
Asking her to do it for you somehow switches it off in her brain - trust me …
Just play play play and keep playing some more. I find (this sounds bad) but when strapped down and played with I loose control over when I say “stop I can’t take anymore” as he doesn’t stop and often it’ll happen …
Don’t force it though! But just know it’s a weird sensation and often it makes us want to stop as it feels … hmm like you’re going to wet yourself thus often I’ll hold back as it feels odd.
That totally it obviously i can feel and she sounds like she is getting wetter and just want her to let it go but doesn’t but obviously if she feel like she going to wet her self wont so when I get to that point she sometimes says to stop so how can I keep going and get her over that
Hmm … for me a womaniser ALWAYS does the trick. However with my husband he is just relentless and sort of doesn’t allow me to stop, he waits for that ‘sound’ (you’ll know the one) and refuses to stop and I end up giving in and having to let go.
I will often say “no no you’re going to have to stop” but he knows it’s mind over matter and so just doesn’t. Sometimes he’ll blindfold me to take away some senses which heightens it more also - but usually I’m not able to wriggle out of position either so it’s sort of … forced but not ? He knows I’m begging him to stop because I feel like I can’t take anymore but he knows that’s the queue usually and so keeps going and going until yeh - it happens.
Also - if alcohol is involved it always happens !
That’s totally the same situation I am in
She uses a womaniser to get her to cum then wants me to use my fingers and asks me to start slow then as she cums wants me to go harder 
that’s when I get the sound but then says to stop and then doesn’t fully let go that’s my frustration
It’s getting past that point
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How if she keeps telling me to stop haha
edited for god sake don’t say “let go” or “squirt” because it just sends a mental signal to pack up shop! Lol
Just keep telling her how much you’re enjoying watching her squirm around and reassure her she’s ok. Maybe say “I can’t stop” or “I don’t want to stop” and just apply more pressure and switch up the toys etc
It’ll happen
Also you must remember it’s orgasm after orgasm after orgasm (certainly not just one!) … it sort of builds up … it usually happens shortly after an intense orgasm as it feels like you need to stop but that’s the point NOT to stop!
How can I put this ? She will probably be sweating profusely and shaking like a leaf by the time you reach that point and she will feel like she needs to stop but … that’s the point to push on…
Also - put towels down beforehand so it’s out of her mind about mess
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OH can and does tend to squirt but not always from penetration. We find that finger play, clit toys or glass dildo gets best results for us.
Yeah she normally cums with her toys first then wants me to use my fingers on her g spot more and more “go faster “ that’s when I get the sound and I normally use my middle two fingers and rock up and down pressing on her g spot.
Would g spot toys work better than fingers