I’ve been with my wife for over 10 years now and whilst fairly sexually experienced I still have a few fantasies I would love to try. My wife used to be quite adventurous but after having children it’s now just a quicky with me on top and maybe some porn to get her in mood! I would love to see her with another couple or male or female. The thought of her being pleasured and enjoying herself is the main aim. Any tips, advise or experience!
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I hear your predicament but feel you need to explore a lot more before looking to add others to your bed
After children it’s slow to get back to pre child sex as you get tired and cannot make too much noise- but there are ways around this
1… enjoy sex when the children are at school
2…baby sitters or pass children to family to give a day away - book a cheap hotel for the day and get back your naughty side
3… talk to each other and suggest different things - it’s so boring just going penis in vagina- do role play/ cross play/ spanking / oral / anal / dominant and submissive- there is so much out there
4 … toys and lingerie - get in the mood - wear sexy lingerie for normal days - it will get your head in a good place and you are more likely to get a good reaction when you show off the lingerie to your partner later
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Thanks for the advice, unfortunately we have teenagers so getting them to stay out can be a pain 
, my wife used to have the best and sexiest underwear but now it’s just big black knickers.
We’ve explored cock rings, vibrators, dildos and a fair few sex toys but she seems quite against them now, in foreplay will talk about other couples or her with another girl which is amazing. Just wondering how I can gently encourage her
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I would get your own intimacy in place before you add in anyone new. But any sort of conversation about sexual changes should happen away from sex and in a neutral place.
Ultimately she’s your wife, you’re together over 10 years, you should know how to approach her with a conversation about sex. Does she need a warning or can you bring it up and she won’t feel ambushed?
Try a quiz, look up Carnal Calibration its sexual scenarios/suggestions and you rate them on whether you’d want to do them or not and then you get the answers at the end. You can choose whether to only see matching suggestions or all of them. I’d go with matching to start and that will give you something to talk about. You can both do it on separate devices so you don’t have to be together to do it. Or you can and then chat about it.
Just talk to the woman.
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Classic example of “What I want because porn made it look good”.
You’re wife is barely interested in sex with you. So, yea, press your fantasy on her and see how long your marriage lasts.
You say your kids are teenagers? Good luck keeping that one secret from them. Ruin their opinion of their parents while youre at it.
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you are making a whole lot of assumptions and being very condescending.