We have been friends with a couple for over 20 years now and all of a sudden I have started having really naughty thoughts about the female of the couple so much so I’ve been getting photos of her when we have been on holiday with them to wank over. I know I shouldn’t but I can’t help it does anyone else struggle with this
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There’s nothing wrong with fantasies, hell, sometimes it can make a connection even stronger.
How does your partner feel about it? Do they know? Would your friend be interested in ethical non-monogamy? It can be a great thing for some people, as long as everyone is onboard.
Nothing wrong with fantasy, but have you shared it with your partner and what do they think?
What would they say if they caught you masturbating over a picture of her friend?
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Put it round the other way how would you feel if you found out her partner has been wanking over pictures of your wife?
I know if I caught my hubby wanking over a picture of say my sister or a female friend not only would I be very hurt but i would go berserk and he would never forget my wrath.
Also my husband said if he found out that a friend was doing this over a picture of me he would break the friendship because if he stayed friends with him it might make the bloke think he could try his luck. I also would feel uncomfortable knowing and would not feel safe if left alone with him.
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Does your partner know of it?
No my partner doesn’t know about it and if I found out they were wanking over my OH id love it
But if your partner was masturbating over a pic of someone other than yourself would you like it?
Or if she was deliberately taking pictures of someone else for wanking material would you like that too?
I don’t suppose the “friend” or husband would be impressed either… be careful you could find yourself in deep trouble for doing it too. I would delete those pictures asap.
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Thing is if your wife finds out, regardless of her reaction, and she tells her friend who tells her husband things could really kick off.
@Littlewil82 …I think you need to have a serious word with yourself.
Im quite sure the woman in question would find it exceptionally creepy…. I do.!!
Delete the photos and develop a level of self control….at very least keep you mental images for the said purpose…those can be discovered like a photo
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They aren’t photos taken without her knowing they are just normal photos
Honestly I’d say be honest about it. Tell your partner. Slowly at first…..wouldn’t just throw all the pictures in at first. But be honest
Just put the pictures back in the album or wherever you keep them normally and forget about them. I do think if you tell your wife she is going to think all sorts of things like are you having an affair, do you want an affair, she will probably be very upset, I know I would be if it was me, probably sleep in a spare room for a long time.