Hey!
So I’m very new to BDSM . I’ve recently met a man who is hugely dominant in the most beautiful way. I’m exploring restraints safely and slowly with him at the moment.
Does anybody have any recommendations? Any personal favourites? Something that would you recommend trying atleast once? 
Thankyou in advance for any replies!
Mental bondage is a highly arousing form restraining your submissive. As you play together and your dominant teases you, you know it’s so easy to just to do what you want but you wish to please your dominant so you must resist and when they release you you want to explode.
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There are many here into the BDSM and D/s life one of which is @Tenshadesandme who has a blog on a lot of the kinky things that are along your bondage journey.
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BSSM? Sorry, can’t help with that one 
I’ve got a review going up in about 30 minutes for a lovely set that we got to review, courtesy of Lovehoney. I’ll try and remember to pop back later and share the link, unless my minio.. ahem, forum friend and reader @JGood here wants something to do
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Hello, welcome to the forum! x
It’s absolutely amazing that you’ve met someone dominant who’s willing to explore your kinky side whilst taking it slow. There’s absolutely loads of restraints out there to try, hand cuffs, ankle spreads, gags, swings, the list goes on!
Personally, I really like Handcuffs that are not metal as it’s comfortable around the wrist whilst still providing a kinky thrill. Also, I also think Rope is great when exploring bondage- it’s versatile and can be used on any part of your body 
Hot off the press, enjoy
Under bed restraints are a great starting point, they can make you feel suitably vulnerable without any skill in knots and less intimidating than metal chains.
LH do a beginner set with Velcro restraints, which might be a good starter! If you enjoy you’ll find you quickly expand your collection, and there are tons of options. Lockable ones are fun!
We have just started using the under bed restraints and they are very good. Easy to setup and can be hid under the mattress when not in use.
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We’ve gone old school.
Shoelaces round headboard posts, with loops at different lengths, and cuffs clipped to the loops
Who’d have thought being in scouts 30 years ago would have paid off
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I am like you I still have my velcro ones from LH, comfortable and stil gives you that restraint feeling.
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So if you’re new to it start slow. Experiment with one kind of restraint at a time before you start combining for more and more restrictive play. #
You say “restraints” so I will keep suggestions to cuffs and the like.
Some simple cuffs are great, LH do some nice velcro ones which are surprisingly hard wearing and restrain you well, but you can get out of them without fumbling around with keys or buckles if you have a bit of a moment and want out. Advance to the lockable / hardier metal and leather stuff in time.
Two sets of cuffs are good as you can lock a wrist to an ankle for more versatility of positions.
Under bed restraints are also great, they don’t offer as much flexibility in terms of being able to flip the submissive over and change positions easily, but for an extended play in a single position, such as a long tease / denial / whipping etc they are brilliant. Easy to set up and tuck under the mattress for discreet storage.
If you want to switch things up then try a spreader bar, with or without some cuffs, or some wrist to thing cuffs which the wife and I absolutely love, very versatile things for lots of delicious positions.
With all of these things there are other accessories like buttplugs, vibrators, clamps of different types, blindfolds and gags (my favorites) to get carried away with.
For ideas we actually like a bit of porn (sometimes together but mostly separately). I just like to browse through a bit of bondage / BDSM / fetish / roleplay stuff. Not so much to masturbate to (although every now and then there’s no harm), but mostly for ideas. It doesn’t tend to work very well if you’re slavishly trying to re create a scene, but I love it for ideas. A new way of tying someone up, a different kind of gag that I hadn’t seen before or thought to try, a new scenario to act out or try a variation of. Just a few new ideas like if you’re spit-balling a problem.
My best advice is use one or two toys separately before combining. Just getting trussed up and overwhelmed with gadgets can take away from the experience rather than enhancing it. Start slow, build trust (especially with a fairly new partner), communicate before and after each session and remember a safe word (or safe signal if you’re gagged).