I’ve got a really good question to ask everybody on here.
Do you feel a difference when you wear a condom? The reason why I ask is because I do not have much success with condoms? I have tried different types as well as different sizes, but they just don’t feel right to me. I feel like it numbs the sensation and just doesn’t feel the same so it takes me a lot longer to orgasm wearing a condom. I’m not sure generally how women feel, but when I ask the partners that I’ve been with, they all said that it Definitely beyond any doubt feels better without a condom.
It would be interesting to hear the thoughts of others on this question from all perspectives.
Hubby and I have always been bareback people, but we are the only people we each have sex with. With that said, I like condoms sometimes - it’s like my first time again!
I think it’s similar but different. With the latter it’s mode like we’re doing something naughty, which makes it hotter. Without it’s more connected, which feels more intimate.
So the first question is do you wear them for pregnancy prevention? Or infection protection! If so bare isn’t even on the menu, all it takes is time to fine the right thinness or thickness of condom, the size and material. Do your research ask here or go to your local family planning.
If you are just wearing them for desensitising yourself then there are techniques to learn and you can control your cumming quite easily. @Tenshadesandme talks about tantric technique.
As for the differences depending on the thickness of the condom it can be from quite noticeable to not at all. Bareback is for when you are in a commitment that’s solid be it 2 or many more and you have a guarantee of safety with all.
Bare is my preference, but I’m monogamous and snipped. Wife agrees.
The only real regret I have is being tainted against condoms early in our relationship and so she chose to go on the pill. Major impact to libido and natural fluids and arousal response. Bare + no pill > Condoms + no pill > bare + pill.
To be fair, even when she was off the pill we really only used condoms for two weeks each month, really just to be safe. No worries the week before and during period, and rest of the time it was 50/50 whether to pull out and cum on her back/belly or pull out really early and put a condom on.
Editing just to say that I used Trojan Bareskin ultrathin for 5-6 years and then found Skyn Elite Ultrathin (I think) and those were really phenomenal for a feel that wasn’t too thick or slimy at all and no smell complaint from me. Also, it turns out after I went looking into the specs, that the Skyns were a tad bigger and made for a better/less constricting/more comfortable fit and so that should not be discounted that you maybe there’s a better one out there you haven’t tried. Does it still feel better without? Yeah, but no complaints with those.
It goes without saying that it would be utterly silly not to use a condom with someone who you were not exclusive with or vice versa.
But for me when I eventually when it’s meant to be, do you get a partner that wants to be with me then I would ask for exclusivity and then be able to go wear back every time because I crave that feeling that you get of skin to skin. You feel the other person properly vice versa and you feel the warmth of them also and don’t lose sensation due to the numbing effect of the condom
I don’t want to break the rules of this forum so can I just say the brand and the model of the condom?
Will that be okay or will that be seen as advertising and break the rules?
I’ve used a few different types of Durex skins and mates condoms.
I’ve used the latex and non-latex ones along with different sizes, but none of them really are anything like going bareback both for me or my partner, There is a massive negative impact of using a condom
@KeepingItReal
As a guy definitely bare is better
We used to use other contraceptive methods besides condoms through the years but they were the one we used the most
As she got nearer to menopause she’d say we were ok to start out with no protection and then pop the condom on when I was close
Now she past menopause we don’t need condoms but holding back pulling out of her and trying not to cum putting one on became kinda part of the routine and I kinda missed it for quite a while
For me personally I can tell the difference, and so can he.
Definitely bareback is better. Right at the start of our relationship when we were using them, I couldn’t feel him like I do now, it would take me forever to orgasm, and it would take him a long time too. So when the contraception was in my system, and we were able to get rid of the bloody things it was amazing - being able to feel him.
Think it depends what you’re used to, I have worn condoms reguarlly since I started having sex. I used to have a lot of 1 night stands and would have generally low standards so was never a question for me to wear one or not. Even now almost 10 years in with my wife I still use them as a form of contraception but usually wait till half way through to put it on as we arent worried about the STI side of things. So in summary, I personally dont notice a difference.