I kinda feel like this aswell to be honest. I suffer from PTSD and OCD, so im always stressed and it has taken a huge toll on my physical and mental health. I used to masturbate to help destress but even now with my sexual health being affected it makes me feel worse after usually.
When ever it makes me feel down about not havint a partner or anyone to do stuff with, i usually just try to think positively about it and focus on what the future will bring, thinking about how i cant wait to get into a relationship and all the stuff we could do in the future.
I feel like cuddling up to a planket or even a pillow sometimes helps, or even asking a friend for a hug can make a big difference!
Sometimes if masturbation hasn’t resulted in a satisfying orgasm.
I feel a bit disappointed. If i lose the erection. I am on blood pressure meds lately the GP added an ace inhibiter which is also a diuretic. So increasing the need and frequency to pee.
Hi, I find it really inspiring that you’re able to think positively despite everything, the blanket trick sounds really great; I’ll have to try it. I also just wanted to say that you’re not alone, I have PTSD too and it’s honestly both mentally and physically exhausting, it’s honestly amazing how you’ve got such a positive mind-set for the future! I don’t know all the ins and outs of your life but I want you to know that you’re not alone in this and if you ever need someone to lend an ear I’m here (: <3
Thank you! Same to you and everyone else. I try to remain as positive as i can be, even though i know there are some days where my mental health is so bad i cant think positively and feel at my lowest, but i try my best too look towards something positive to keep my mind focused or atleast try to keep myself distracted.
Having the OCD aswell makes it even worse, but ive somehow managed my best to try and deal with it all whilst seeking medical help. I appreciate your thoughts and being inspired by me, it made me smile. If you need anyone to speak to aswell im here, and im sure plenty of others are aswell. Doesnt help Univeristy is stressful aswell to be honest!
I can try share some more tips if you would like? Obviously some stuff might not work, others may. Just gotta try and see
I’d absolutely love to hear more advice, I tried cuddling into my weighted blanket last night and eventually I managed to fall asleep without feeling too bad, so that really helped.
I completely see where you’re coming from, I’m also in Uni and at times it can be super stressful. If you ever want to chat about life feel free to @ me in The Lounge it would be great to rant about everyday life (:
Yes, and the only thing that truly helped was simply abstaining from masturbation for some time. In my case, months. It was hard at first, but after a couple weeks it was easy. In and out of a relationship, same thing for me. Always feel like a piece of crap afterward. I just recognized it wasn’t good for me, so I stopped. Now, a year or more on, I can do it sometimes without those feelings/thoughts.
I think its actually very common but everyone has a different level of post orgasm blues. I would highly recommend taking a logical/scentific approach. I.e. re-introduce oxytocin and dopamine, however you do that is down to you. Personally i get a great deal from exercise, some form of puzzle/building or video games. I will try and go into one of those post sex.
Its good to hear the blanket helped! I know some people like purchasing weighted stuffed toys as an alternative to cuddling a blanket.
Sometimes, meeting new people can help, i admit i hate meeting and starting conversations with people, thats why i tend to branch out online or through stuff like volunteering, although it might not directly target feeling lonely and wanting to be in close contact with someone, it can help in general. I try to think about all the things me and my future partner could do. I know that for some people this might not work as affectively or make them feel worse, so it kind of depends on how you perceive it.
Im still looking for ways to tackle it fully myself, so im trying to test and explore different things and see how they feel. Ill keep you updated with anything i try that might feel effective!
Thanks for suggesting the Lounge! I didnt even know it existed haha. I wouldnt mind that at all, feel free to @ me aswell, and ill do my best to respond asap! I think that would be nice and especially keep our minds of stuff!
