Was wondering if anyone has any hints or tips for my girlfriend - sorry, Mistress and I?
We are not easily shocked and I would say that our only limits are toilet games etc.
Very grateful for any advice you can give, thank you...
female domination?
amore wrote:
female domination?
When the lass is in charge. Can mean I have to do her ironing all the way up to being her sexual play thing. Often this includes role reversal where I am penetrated during sex instead of her. Can include bondage aspects like nipple clamps and my cock and balls being tied up etc.
Go buy a huge box of normal table candles (about half an inch at the base), Let your mistres detain/strap you up in your usual way, for every candle she can fit in your ass, you get a reward of her choosing. Increasing the reward for each candle inserted. A pleasure pain thing. You can both try to beat your record. Every time you break your record you should light the candles in celebration!
Doesn't have to be candles anything of slim nature will do.
ahhh thats kind of new to me.
sorry to sound dense
Mucky Duck wrote:
Go buy a huge box of normal table candles (about half an inch at the base), Let your mistres detain/strap you up in your usual way, for every candle she can fit in your ass, you get a reward of her choosing. Increasing the reward for each candle inserted. A pleasure pain thing. You can both try to beat your record. Every time you break your record you should light the candles in celebration!
Doesn't have to be candles anything of slim nature will do.
I think it would spoil her fun if I had that many or that big of a reward!
amore wrote:
ahhh thats kind of new to me.
sorry to sound dense
No need to say sorry. I assumed people would know what it was. My fault.
Have you tried getting ideas from some of the erotic literature sites? If you try http://www.literotica.com there are some stories on there. You will need to navigate your way to erotic stories, then choose the BDSM section. Some of the stuff on there can be quite extreme but a lot of it sounds feasible and it might give you some ideas about games and rewards/punishments. Let me know if you find anything.
If doing the ironing's part of it, then I doubt my girlfriend would ever get past that! Wouldn't be much fun for me!
I'm afraid i dont have any advice for you (sorry) but i just want to say, good on you!!
I would love a guy that i could dominate, im a very dominating person, my ex was very submissive (just sucks he was not very attractive to me, lol), but my current OH is also dominant, so it doesnt work out so well, he's better at over powering me, than i am of him, which gets annoying, lol. Men usually just hate women being dominant, so congrats on being a wonderful minority ^_^
*hugs!*
x x x
PS. Hope you dont mind the praise ^_^
Little Bitch Boy wrote:
Was wondering if anyone has any hints or tips for my girlfriend - sorry, Mistress and I?
We are not easily shocked and I would say that our only limits are toilet games etc.
Very grateful for any advice you can give, thank you...
Can you be more specific? Advice about what, exactly?
Lilla K wrote:
Have you tried getting ideas from some of the erotic literature sites? If you try http://www.literotica.com there are some stories on there. You will need to navigate your way to erotic stories, then choose the BDSM section. Some of the stuff on there can be quite extreme but a lot of it sounds feasible and it might give you some ideas about games and rewards/punishments. Let me know if you find anything.
I have just had a quick look on http://www.literotica.com and after a quick search found a member called royalrogue with femdom stories - http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=396901&page=submissions . Thank you Lilla K!
Lubyanka wrote:
Little Bitch Boy wrote:
Was wondering if anyone has any hints or tips for my girlfriend - sorry, Mistress and I?
We are not easily shocked and I would say that our only limits are toilet games etc.
Very grateful for any advice you can give, thank you...
Can you be more specific? Advice about what, exactly?
Situations, stories, methods, games, humiliations, punishments, toys and anything else a more experienced member might think of could give us...
Morbidia wrote:
I'm afraid i dont have any advice for you (sorry) but i just want to say, good on you!!
I would love a guy that i could dominate, im a very dominating person, my ex was very submissive (just sucks he was not very attractive to me, lol), but my current OH is also dominant, so it doesnt work out so well, he's better at over powering me, than i am of him, which gets annoying, lol. Men usually just hate women being dominant, so congrats on being a wonderful minority ^_^
*hugs!*
x x x
PS. Hope you dont mind the praise ^_^
Thank you for the praise, I don't mind at all!
I'm not just submissive, we switch and have normal sex too but I love seeing the Mistress side of my girlfriend. Normally quite quiet and shy she is very different in the bedroom (always the quiet ones!). I prefer smart, funny and I suppose tomboy type girls so I guess that's why I like to feel dominated.
And if you don't mind me saying... after seeing your pictures I have the fantasy of being dominated by two women at once!
These websites have been very helpful to us...
http://ruinedorgasm.com/
and
http://orgasmdenialpov.com/
Would love anything along similar lines...
heya,
if you havent already done so, you may want to take a look at the "bondage" section of the forum? they may have a few pointers!
x
Little Bitch Boy wrote:
Lubyanka wrote:
Can you be more specific? Advice about what, exactly?
Situations, stories, methods, games, humiliations, punishments, toys and anything else a more experienced member might think of could give us...
If I understand you correctly, you're seeking new ideas for kinky stuff to do in the bedroom, is that right? If that's what you're looking for, some idea of what you've already done might be helpful.
My power exchange dynamic with my submissive is based less on specific activities such as you mention, and more on me owning him, so I don't think I can give you examples of games and suchlike as you requested. However, regarding methods, I established my ownership over him by gaining his consent for me to have the final say over his health and pleasure. That is, whilst he is responsible for allocating his own time so that he gets everything done that he needs to, and is also responsible for reporting his state of being to me whenever there is a change, I have the final say regarding how he takes care of himself, and how much pleasure (if any) he is allowed.
One health example - he has been to the doctor under my direction, and as a result, several long-standing, pre-existing health problems have been identified and are now being treated.
A pleasure example - I allow him to masturbate unsupervised and at times of his choosing for an hour once a week, but he's not allowed to orgasm unless I give specific permission.
I don't ever do "punishments", since I know that my submissive's primary desire is to please me, and his failure to do so hurts him much more than it hurts me. I don't have to do anything to punish him, he does it all by himself. The fact that he knows that I have no desire to punish him, and that all I want is my own happiness and his optimal functioning, means that he only associates me with pleasure, and not with unpleasantness. This is an important part of my training scheme.
You and your partner might be interested in my resource on prostate milking:
http://ladylubyanka.wordpress.com/prostate-milking/
I wish you luck. :)
Hi Lady Lubyanka.
a bit off topic for little bitch boy, but i just took a look at your blog and found it very interesting =0)
sarah
x
Thank you Sarah. :)
Little Bitch Boy wrote:
Lilla K wrote:
Have you tried getting ideas from some of the erotic literature sites? If you try http://www.literotica.com there are some stories on there. You will need to navigate your way to erotic stories, then choose the BDSM section. Some of the stuff on there can be quite extreme but a lot of it sounds feasible and it might give you some ideas about games and rewards/punishments. Let me know if you find anything.
I have just had a quick look on http://www.literotica.com and after a quick search found a member called royalrogue with femdom stories - http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=396901&page=submissions . Thank you Lilla K!
You're welcome!