FETISH CLUBS

im confused by the whole thing, is it like a casual sex club of is it just watching and where do you find them? and info welcome

There's a Fetish club near us (aren't we lucky!) that's set up in a way where people can just go to, dance, drink & have a great time with like minded souls. However, there are seperate rooms with apparatus; stalks, heavy duty metal chains fixed to the wall, a wall mounted circular disc that rotates once someone has been fixed to it (can't think of it's proper name) where people can actively participate or spectate what's going on. I found that people were watching whilst chatting & socialising, it wasn't like tons of folk standing gauping at strangers bound & tied or in the throws of passion. It was all very tasteful. The general rule was no sex, but there was evident pretty heavy foreplay going on, which no-one seemed to mind (for obvious reasons) ;0)

in general its a normal club with a room set aside with a couple pieces of fetish furniture (normally a frame, a rack etc)
if you wantto play on the furniture it is done on full view
actula sex is normally not permitted due to public decency laws etc-that is more in with the private party seen and "swingers" nights

oh and you normally have to bring your own ecoutrments-rope, crops, whips etc

Old old old thread being bumped here! not sure whether any of the previous posters even still use the forums? Anyway, I have a little fantasy about a fetish club, fuelled by erotic fiction such as

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=347897

But is it really like that at all? I like the look of the Torture Garden events - has anyone been? Their website seems to assume a reasonable amount of prior knowledge and I have none. What's it actually like?

SS xx

To be honest, it could be worthwhile looking at the local scene for you as the likes of the site fetlife will show - i found the scene does seem to expect some prior knowledge but the local munches and reading the forums gives a much better, more gentle, intro :)

Im limited in my knowledge beyond that though, sorry!

Thanks LF - Local is London for me, so I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed! Please excuse my ignorance, but what are "local munches"?

SS xx

Munches are events, held by local kinky types, normally in a bar or cafe. They're totally vanilla, no play happens and dress is strictly vanilla only (nothing to scare the "normal" people)!

They're a great way of getting to meet some of the people involved in the scene without having to go to a play event as your first "thing"!

You may be able to find some smaller sub-groups of people within the scene where you are that may feel less intimidating, but like I say my first bit of advice would be joining FetLife, it's how I got to know people on the scene here :)

Thanks! Most useful, and much appreciated.

*sigh* your photo really is splendid. puts me in mind of this...

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=7823&reviewid=23321#customer_reviews

Hope that's ok!

SS xx

Glad I was of some use! And hehe, mine are only dinky, honest :P and thank you ;)

If you join up on fetlife.com,you will be opening a huge window on this world and all your questions will be answered,be careful though you will end up buying more stuff here to satisfy your stimulated curiousity lol

NymphetamineKiss wrote:

Munches are events, held by local kinky types, normally in a bar or cafe. They're totally vanilla, no play happens and dress is strictly vanilla only (nothing to scare the "normal" people)!

They're a great way of getting to meet some of the people involved in the scene without having to go to a play event as your first "thing"!

You may be able to find some smaller sub-groups of people within the scene where you are that may feel less intimidating, but like I say my first bit of advice would be joining FetLife, it's how I got to know people on the scene here :)

Yes sometimes at munches people will take products as a kind of show and tell, like for example an electric wand. Sometimes they have theme nights such as cowboy/girl so an outfit can be but together. You can find people who will host parties of there own at these, they can be pretty big. One time a friend was being good and she got locked in a cage for a few hours; she seemed to enjoy it. You'll also be able to find people who make the furniture sometimes at these clubs, one of my friends makes racks, cages, etc, but they are far too much for me to afford.

You will become linked with a lot of people within the community. I'm not really big on the community side really but one of my friends decided to stop meeting with a group and rumors did start to happen. I guess this is like any community though.

Sex doesn't tend to be allowed at the clubs like Nymphetaminkiss stated.

I've only used fetlife once before, though tend to hear through friends when meets happen. Also doing a local search can be helpful, or going into your local sex shop. Sometimes they will have a list of events.

Oh also you might be able to find out about laws etc involving causing people pain and things.... Probably doesn't make much sense, I'm still waking up. But I've had interesting chats with friends and how they have to be careful when taking part in certain activities due to UK laws.... Tends to be a few knowledgable at clubs.

And you might be able to borrow out of print fetish books, if you get to know some of the people well enough.