so hubby and i have been doing a little bit of anal play but there are a few things i am not sure about and i thought you lovely people might know. Are butt plugs used to widen the butt before then man can put his cock in. So if i was having normal sex would i put the butt plug in then when he where ready for anal take it out, Would it stay in on its own ? . If only you could all see how red i am going writing this ... Love the thought of anal but it feels very weird and just wondered if the more we do it the easier it will become ?
They can be used to warm you up ready for him to put his cock in there, and it's quite good to leave them in while having sex cause it gives you chance to get used to having something in there and you relax your muscles when having sex! It does stay in on it's own so don't worry about it falling out! Some people wear them for hours going about their day! It does become easier with more practice and being able to relax helps.
My best tip: LOADS of lube, whatever is going up there!!
thank you MissBoo . have been having a look at the different butt pugs guess i should go for a starter one ?
You can use a butt plug but you don't need to. I would say to start off with a butt plug if you find it hard taking your OH in. Use a normal lube, if you can use silicone based, it's more oily than a waterbased lube, so would be better imo to use. I would highly suggest the gun oil range of lubes, water, silicone, cream, they are fantastic and made for this type of play;
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2625
I would steer clear from using jelly toys, they just really don't train your bum too well. Find yourself a good silicone toy, this dc johnson mood naughty butt plug would be fantastic
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21231
Don't be put off, it says large but it really isn't big, it would rival a medium size and would be a good beginner toy tbh.
The art of anal is to relax, if you find it hard to relax, have a glass of wine or 2 before hand, Change positions, I find it easier for him to insert when I am bent over, say, the sofa, with 1 leg hitched up.
Most of all, have fun x
You don't need to go for a starter one.. You'd be surprised at what you can take. Regardless of size/toy/cock(!), take your time inserting and use plenty of lube. I prefer a thick water based lube, but as Blueeyes said, she prefers silicone based, so it really is personal preference and go with what feels right.
Relaxation and taking it slow is key.
Try inserting something so far and then take the time to get used to it before you go any further.
But also like Blueeyes said, you don't need to use a butt plug as fingers and slow insertion of his cock will be fine (we've never used a plug on me) but if you do get one, get a firmer one as opposed to a jelly one.
Take your time :)
I have had anal many times. Sometimes I liked it but sometimes I didn't... I want to REALLY like it! Am I weird?
not at all gasm..
even tho i have no interest in anal sex
With anal relaxation is key, doggy is a great position for this as you can use a toy on yourself
Use lots of lube on yourself and your partner make it fun, have a giggle about it, it feels weired going in which is why you tense up but breath threw it, some people even find pushing against the cock like your having a poo helps
Try lots of foreplay first and you can get your partner to run his fingers around your anus to get used to having it touch then sliding a finger in personally I think it's a mind over matter thing. society still think anal is a tad taboo its not spoken about as much as other forms of sex so your brain still tells your body it's " bad" so you automatically tense at any form of stimulation, in time this stops as your mind and body adapts and gets used to it
I personally love anal especially when I use my rabbit on my self you get the vaginal stimulation as well as cliteral and your partner will be able to feel the rabbit vibrate and move inside you as the vaginal canal and lower bowl run parallel to each other so using a toy at the same time will enhance the stimulation for both partners
NEVER feel embarresed about discussing things on here, that is what we are here for babes we are a great group of people and we are always willing to help and give advise if we can plus lets face it no one knows who you are so you have the freedom to ask anything ;-)
Enjoy yourself babes our bodies are there for us to enjoy in many ways explore and experiment and I'm sure you will find what works best for you but most importantly HAVE FUN xxxx much love xxxx
Once again relaxation is the key. My oh found doggy and laying face down a bit uncomfortable for her so she preferred laying on her back to start. To be honest I preferred that too as I could watch her and see her.
Lots of lube too. And take your time
Like most things anal sex gets better and better the more you do it and relax with each other. My wife and I have been having anal sex for over 12 years now and I can tell you that we both love it. Apart from the amazing sensation it is such an intimate form of sex and shows a deep level of trust and love between you and your partner.
It does get easier the more you do it and lube is a must really. Not only do we have cock to ass sex but fingering her butt hole really turns us both on, and it is surprising just how many fingers you can actually get in. We also various toys, vibrators, dildos, inflating butt plugs, with some being on the large size, again something you can build up to. This of course does mean that you can have your own DP sex, giving you the option of f*****g her ass or pussy, whilst the toy goes in the other. I also love to rim my wifes ass, that degree of intimacy really does turn her and me on.
I will also mention that the wife does at times finger my ass, plenty of lube, and it is really quite mind blowing the sensation it gives you, epsecially when you cum.
So to end, take your time, build upto things, don't be embarresed about it because there are an awful lot of us there who have anal sex, more than will admit to it. It is so incredibly enjoyable and you will both find it so, guaranteed.
It looks great in porn films. Been very tempted while in the throes of passion.
But in reality doesn't your cock get covered in shit?
I agree with everyone here!!! Relax, lube and relax some more. Let him open you up slowly with his fingers (going at your own pace) eventually you will be ready for him to penetrate.
Plugs can be used to open you slightly as can other toys. The key really is relaxing, lube and taking it at your own pace.
Good luck!
Reply for DoorGlass
No you don't get covered in poo, there can be the very odd and I do mean odd ocassion when you encounter a little, but generally no. Of course it is advisable to have had a poo first and a good wash etc.
Cheers kc.
DoorGlass wrote:
It looks great in porn films. Been very tempted while in the throes of passion.
But in reality doesn't your cock get covered in shit?
No, the anal is self cleaning, usually in a 12 hour period. I wouldn't suggest anal if you've just had a poo in the last couple of hours. Douching helps clear the pathway but again, leave a few hours between douching and anal sex.
But covered in poo? Nope, however, I've never had anal straight after a sh*t :p
Hey :)
Me and my partner have been experimenting with anal over the last couple of months and slowly I am realxing more with it, but I just wanted to know is there anything he can do to make it feel better for me and more pleasurable? because at the moment it is just feeling weird o.O
Also he said he would like to try it with me doing it to him, and I did try not very succesfully.... and I dont think he enjoyed it really :/ I would like to try it again with him, but I dont know how to approach it??? He is rather sensitive about the issue, as most guys would be, and I just want him to be able to experience it in a more pleasurable light!
Any advice would be awesome!
what's he want? pegging, a finger or butt plug?
I think he mostly just wanted to try it, so im thinking a simple finger would surfice! But I have not a clue what to do XD
CrimsonVixen wrote:
Also he said he would like to try it with me doing it to him, and I did try not very succesfully.... and I dont think he enjoyed it really :/ I would like to try it again with him, but I dont know how to approach it???
Approach it from behind.
CrimsonVixen wrote:
I think he mostly just wanted to try it, so im thinking a simple finger would surfice! But I have not a clue what to do XD
lube his anal area up and your finger, get him to relax, maybe whilst giving him head (pre warn him first) and slowly insert your finger (don't ram). Get him to direct you, once you start inserting x