I can speak only for me personally. I think (aside from blackmail, which is another matter entirely) the whole financial thing is probably the deepest level of control that one person could have over another.
This is really interesting MrB. My first thought was that Financial Domination could be explained as a sort of return to childhood...... being under the control of Mum and getting your pocket money from her. But I can see there's more to it than that.
I'm not being judgemental, but speaking personally, I'm quite careful with my money and putting it in the control of someone else would be my worst nightmare. (I'd rather be locked in a cage for an hour with Fluffbags and her whip !! Don't get me wrong, I love Fluffbags, like she was my own sister...... have you been to her site: wickedwoman.com ?)
Anyway, I'm inclined to put a brotherly arm around your shoulder and say 'this stretch of coast is not a great place to be swimming in...... there's SHARKS out there' ! In other words, you might end up with a Domme who gets to fleece you. But of course that's part of it..... taking the risk of it all going horribly wrong. Like a mountaineer being willing to put his life on the line.
depends purely on the level of trust, my wife was a bank clerk and is now a financial controller, if i give her 10,000 to look after it is looked after, if I give her 10,000 that she can use if she has a problem then its amazing what constitutes a problem. Part of being married is sharing and you must share everything (in my book anyway). It is a nice feeling to now I can trust her completely, in the old days I used to leave her with a dozen blank cheques...she never ever abused the situation. I have never thought of it in any way sexual but having read this thread maybe deep down it is.
..she never ever abused the situation. I have never thought of it in any way sexual but having read this thread maybe deep down it is.
If it gives you a twinge 'downstairs', Gunter, it's sexual ! But what you describe is just a normal financial arrangement in a marriage. The thing that MrB is talking about is submission.... having to get permission for everything..... plus the risk of losing his money at the whim of his Dom.
I find this really interesting. I'm with Georgina that i couldn't give up control of my money but as for being on on the other end of it, well i'm not really sure.
I don't mind the idea of it but mine and my partners d/s relationship is confined to the bedroom with me being the more submissive so i don't think i'd have the personality to keep this up all the time.
If it was something he wanted to do then of course i'd try it but given we've been together a few years now and trust each other there would't be any risk for him, if that's where the sexual element is coming from it wouldn't really work for us and i couldn't do it with someone i didn't know, i'm a sub by nature :)
If your other half really wanted to buy something, and asked you seriously for the money, I imagine you'd give it.
Ye I can't imagine it lasting very long if we tried it cos i like him telling me what to do (especially if he gets all serious) so it wouldn't really work lol.
To MrBumcheeks: no, I am not attracted to either side of financial domination. But then I am not interested in dominating a man in any form. Like Lou22 I am submissive, whose submission is strictly limited to sexual activities; I am not in the least interested in any kind of lifestyle play.
with me I had to give up control of my our finances purely because I was working in Saudi Arabia, I suppose it was a giant leap of faith at the time but I was so head over heels in love it never occured to me it would ever go wrong....sadly many of my colleagues have had their fingers badly burned.
Don't get me wrong, I love Fluffbags, like she was my own sister...... have you been to her site: wickedwoman.com ?)
