Hi all looking for tips and advice on how to go about finding a suitable “like minded” partner on dating sites without coming across as some kind of weirdo …
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O I’m interested in how this goes, I’m only on two dating places which probably isn’t going to work out well considering my likes.
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I think you just need to honest as to what you are looking for in your profile. You might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but it’s better/easier to be upfront about it than to try and slip it into the conversation later on.
Alternatively, choose the site you use carefully. There are ones more geared to kinks and fetishes so they might be a better place to start
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I think be honest from the start to avoid wasting your time and others.
If there’s something you know you really can’t do without then it’s something you need to be upfront about.
Remember though that there’s give and take in every relationship…and with the right person and teamwork the outcome may be way different to what you expect.
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I think with me it comes down to my ex, she said something that really hurt me and nasty she mentioned one of my kinks when we split up, I know she said it just to hurt my feelings because thinking about it now we had done things together and just me solo that was way more embarrassing different. before I met her I was confident and then even more confident when we were together. Now I’m just a mess I’m gradually getting my confidence back. I have always been honest and upfront in a new relationship, so my ex saying this has really knocked me.
If it was me, I’d say don’t go into a relationship wholly based on kinks, think about what is most important to you first. Are you ready for a real relationship and all that entails? Can you compromise on some kinks or is it a hard no. Just be honest and upfront in the beginning but don’t make it all about what you want.
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Feels like I should quote hunger games and say “May the odds forever be in your favour” lol 
Dating sites and apps are barbaric at the best of times and very judgmental on appearances but after some attempts and exploring you’ll gradually be able to workout how to play the game to your advantage… just try to not lose sense of yourself along the way
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