So me and my OH have been exploring different fetishes and 'avenues' to see what tickles her fancy as she's fairly new to anything outside of vanilla missionary.
we've decided we want to try her being the dominant one and we've had a few practice runs over text and she sounds very keen.. we're ordering a lot of items off LH to help such as outfits and some other bits and bobs (already have quite a lot) My question is this
Are there any tips or hints anyone in the know can give to make it more of a successful evening or any items that are must haves?
Thanks for the reply, we have all the above as I'm normally the dominant one and use it on her quite often we were more curious on times of positions and things she can do. But still very helpful thank you x
By dominant do you mean doing the work in sexual positions or you a submissive completely under her control? Because those are very different things.
With your reply I assume the sex positions dominance so things like cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, blow jobs, etc. With you guys ordering outfits you could do role play where she's a sexy cop or something for example and you're trying to get off the hook by giving her sexual favours, thats more of the 'you as the submissive' type domainance though.
Sorry i will try be a bit clearer, we are going for the full dominatrix type of evening.
So far we've come up with her being in control, telling me when i can and can't cum, we have the outfit planned with crop's and restraints, she will be controling me the whole day for foot massages, baths etc and having to call her mistress all day.
I did suggest pegging but she doesnt think she would be able to do it.
Great help though, she will read this later no doubt xx
Don't do too much in one scene. I'm sure there are loads of ideas you want to try, but keep it simple. The more you try and do in the scene the more she will be focused on "what comes next" rather than getting into the moment and enjoying it.
Her dressing up is a good idea to help her get into charecter so to speak and she could also lay out a large selection of toys and other items but only use a few, that way you won't know what is coming.
A blindfold is a good idea because not only can she tease you as you don't know what's coming and it builds anticipation but also gives her some breathing space if her "performance" isn't flawed (ie you don't know if she's thinking "oh crap what now" or pausing for dramatic effect)
She could start by giving some simple commands like telling you to go to a certain room, stand in a certain place, then tell you to remove your clothes one piece at a time while she watches, she can then tell you to put your clothes in a neat pile (or punish you a little or threaten to punish you later for throwing them on the floor)
She can then put you in an appropriate position, blindfold you and do to you whatever takes her fancy
First off a true dominatrix doesn't have sex with there sub...sorry but porn has fucked that up for alot of peoples ideas.
Femdom however is a female variation on domination in which she can do what ever she wants and therefore can have sex if she so thinks its viable for her to do so.
Domination is all 50 shades and whips.
It has mental elements and aspects , research chastity, joi, cei, sph - these are a few mental elements that i use for my subs.
As for bondage anyone and his dog can do that , but again mix it with mental elements and it becomes more playful.
i have my boy in a chastity cage and on a leash around the house, he sits at my feet is used as a stool if needed , then if hes been a good boy i take him to bed , tie him into the restraints and tease him /edge .. then when he is ready to blow its ruined by doing a ruined orgasm stage... which again some guys find erotic and is a huge mental element.
it takes a bit of getting into the role but once you harness what your both into then its game on
I have 7 years experince doing this and im also now a pro.