I have recently had the want to have my OH fist me, we use plugs, toys, strapons etc but when it comes to her hand, we can never seem to get it all in, any ideas what we doing wrong?
I don't really know the answer, sounds too painful to me. But throught I would reply so that this bumps up to the top of the forum list for you. Hopefully someone will see it and give your some advise x x
It's not something that I would ever want done to me personally. But I know you can watch videos online how to do it. Just type it into goggle. :)
I can't help either but lollipop's idea is good or try asking on another web forum like fetlife? Good luck anyway :)
Lube..lots and lots of lube and work it slowly..using fingers straight out first and working them arund until they can be stretched out before making a fist.
As taraman said, fetlife will prob be really helpful too
I think its going to take a lot of time to work up to taking a fist. I know in porn they make it look like his hand just slipped in there but being on the receiving end of a fist (Vaginally) I know it takes a truck load of lube and time. One finger, then two, holding it when its getting intense, pulling back really helped me....not just constantly pushing forwards but occasionally pulling back and then it would go a little bit more...
It will take a bit of time and maybe over a lot of sessions to manage getting over the knuckles. Go slow, easy, use loads of lube, if you don't suceed and its getting too much, stop and try again another time. Patience and it will happen. x
What you can do is measure your wife's hand, find a matching toy by girth, try that, and if it doesn't go in, pick something smaller and work up from there. If that doesn't work either, get an even smaller toy, and so on.
like others have said, use lots of lube!!! also I find it best to use a position where you're in control. My OH managed to fist me not too long ago and we've been practicing it regularly ever since :)
The position that works best for me is to have her sat or lying down holding her fist up, then I would stand over her then lower myself onto it. Going at my own pace, taking as much as I deem comfortable. The hardest bit is getting it past the knuckles, once those are in though the wrist seems to slip in much easily.