So I’ve decided I really want to attempt self guided prostate stimulation with the goal to achieve the feeling so many have described. I’ve read numerous posts on here but they really do not describe the best practices one might use to achieve this goal. Therefore I’m asking those with experience to provide their advice and methods for achieving a prostate orgasm.
A few questions and please add any other advice you see fit. I’m not looking for comments as to how much you enjoy it or how it feels, I just want information on how to get there. Also this will be self achieved so pegging is not an option.
What do you use on yourself or the other person to stimulate the prostate?
What position do you put your body in while doing it?
How do you get an idea where the prostate is while you are doing it? I mean I know basically where it is in the body but how do you know you have reach yours?
Once there what movements or pressure do you use to stimulate it?
Do you ejaculate from the stimulation? Or is it a body only type of feel that I read so much about?
Do you usually have success when playing this way?
Do you get hard from playing this way or do you go soft?
Any LH toys you would recommend and if so any tips for that specific toy?
I’m going to have some extended alone time in the near future and I thought I would give this a try.
When my wife first introduced me to prostate stimulation it was with her fingers but this led to a lot of research and experimentation alone and together.
the first time I had a prostate orgasm was using an Aneros prostate massager. I practice the technique described at the time on their site. Basically, making sure to have proper lube, insert the toy and then tighten your sphincter like doing kegel exercises but hold it as long as you could. This led to your sphincter to involuntary contract and loosen, thus making the massager move back and forth on your prostate. This for me resulted in multiple prostate orgasms once I learned the process. I then used this technique with other toys but found vibrating prostate massagers give me prostate orgasms without that technique. My favorite is the Mantric prostate massager sold by LH.
That said, many years of anal play I know what gets me there. Prostate toys or vibrators/dildos designed specifically for G-spot and P-spot stimulation. Once the stimulation is on the prostate, which for me is maybe three inches up I pretty much start having prostate orgasms. They come in waves in what I can only describe as what a women may feel who is multi orgasmic. During this time there is a lot of pre-cum and cum that oozes out and quite often I can ejaculate hands free with no stimulation to my penis. I suggest self exploration using toys specifically for anal, as using my own fingers just doesn’t get me there. A prostate massager you can lay back and let it do its thing while you just relax and allow the stimulation to take its course.
Thank you for your informative reply. So from your reply I assume you would recommend a vibrating toy designed for the prostate over the hook type probes. To me that seems logical.
I haven’t found a vibrating prostate massager that has hit the right spot yet, so I use a dildo with a curve in it. I suction it to something flat, then put it on a pillow and ride it. In terms of position/movement, I find leaning back and rocking my hips forward and back and up and down at the same time (sort of like 45° up and forward then back down in the opposite direction if that makes sense?) seems to hit the right spot. You can tell when you hit the right spot because you’ll feel a really intense pleasure. What I find is that once I’m hitting the spot, every stroke in and out feels almost on the verge of orgasm even if I’m not actually close yet. What I also find is that if I’m hard when I’m riding it seems to make a difference to how good it feels (harder cock = more prostate pleasure). Not sure why, my guess is that it changes position of the prostate maybe when I’m hard? So to keep it hard, I stop riding periodically and stroke my cock with a fleshlight or stroker. When I’m already in the zone like that, the strokers can make me cum really quickly so I need to be careful not to push myself over the edge. Then I put aside the stroker and just ride the dildo and eventually that leads to a big orgasm with ejaculation. As I get closer to orgasm I usually get harder naturally (no penis stimulation required) and the pleasure also increases. Most of the time when I have a riding orgasm, then the cum just dribbles out and pools below my cock, but once or twice I’ve had big squirting ejaculation where it’s actually spurted some distance. Hope this helps!!
Yes this does help and thank you for the information.
It does seem a bit complicated but your description also has me even more determined to try this.
Does the size of the dildo matter? I have used my wife’s dildo a couple of times just to see what anal penetration feels like and I can’t say I got any real pleasure from it. The stretch was slightly uncomfortable so I hope size isn’t important for the prostate. I will admit that I did get a little thrill from the thought of the dildo inside of me but no real physical pleasure.
The movement you describe does seem a bit complicated. But I guess it is really knowing where the prostrate is and trying to aim the dildo in that direction.
I looked at some of the vibrating ones and they sort of seem big in girth. A little intimidating.
Sorry I probably overcomplicated my explanation. The motion is much easier than how I explained. I guess main thing to note is back and forth pushes it up against your prostate, in and out gets the head of the dildo sliding against your prostate. Like I said you’ll know when you hit it, so when you do, just replicate whatever you were doing!
My dildo is average penis size I think. Its the vixen Vixskin mustang. It’s also dual density, so I think the outer softness makes it comfortable.
OK after reading several descriptions for prostate stimulators, I keep seeing comments like good for beginners or not for beginners. What features or attributes would make one better for a beginner or an expert? Is it size?
I don’t want to get something that is for a beginner and not get much out of it, but at the same time I also don’t want to get something that will be difficult to use or difficult to insert.
Does a larger head help with stimulating the prostate?
Of course I want something that is going to give me that best chance of having the best orgasm but I don’t want to feel like I’m being torn apart inserting it.
Not sure I have anything to add to the great advice already given here and in other threads, beyond to say how much I love my prostate being stimulated. Always good to try touching yourself in shower and bath to get your own feeling as to where it is and what it feels like
I have never achieved a prostate orgasm alone but am working on it. However, I have cum with conventional cock stimulation with my ass/prostate being stimulated at the same time and find that much more satisfying. Makes me full