As most of you know my wife is struggling with the perimenopausea & since November her libido has just gone, which we talk & im supporting her with. But we all have our needs & im SOO horny all the time she told me to get some toys if it helps, my question is are fleshlights worth it or is it just cheaper to use your hand?
Personally use your hand - I find them cold
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It will most definitely be cheaper to use your hand.
However, the variety of different fleshlight type toys can offer something different, which while may not be to everyone’s tastes, can offer something to break up the same hand based experience.
If you are concerned about whether it is worthwhile for the cost, take a look at some of Lovehoney’s own brands which aee a more reasonable cost.
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Flashlight all the way! I’ll never go back to hands now. Been using one for 3 years! Stoya destroya and Emily Willis squirt. Both are great! I can’t speak highly enough about them.
Alternatively a wand with head attachment for hands free.
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I am a Fleshlight fan but found the Fleshlight Pilot too tight I found the dearer models based on certain models etc better and are my go to toy.
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A Fleshlight is certainly a worthwhile investment. It will offer more varied sensations textures and an altogether more realistic experience. Far superior to the hand my opinion!
You don’t have to go super expensive. I find the THRUST range offers a good value middle ground moderately priced balancing great quality.
I strongly recommend you try out some kind of Fleshlight. I’m certain you will love it.
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My boyfriend loves just a normal pocket pussy sometimes I use it on him or just when he wants to have a play by himself he really enjoys it. They aren’t to expensive the one he enjoys the most I think was like £10-£15 something like that? Not expensive though. He really enjoys them maybe they’d be worth a go? Good luck anyway
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A lubed up Fleshlight definitely feels more realistic is I would recommend you get one but I wouldn’t use it everyday as after each use you have to clean it out and dry it thoroughly (bit time consuming ) otherwise it will go mouldy inside
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Fleshlights are brilliant toys. The usb warmer helps with the temperature but it’s never put me off! They take a while to dry, so not an everyday toy.
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Cheaper to use hand, but absolutely worth it to get a fleshlight. The fleshlight material feels reaaally nice.
The downside with fleshlights is that it tends to be a process to: wash, dry, use refresh powder.
I suggest trying something like a blowmotion or another stroker that doesn’t need refresh powder
But absolutely get a fleshlight at some point, maybe a fleshlight quickshot, as those tend to be cheaper
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I find the Lovehoney Head Master strokers a lot more enjoyable than my hand. 
The Fleshlight Quickshot is my go-to toy and it is the cheapest in the range. It is compact and easy to clean too. It feels amazing in use.
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I guess it depends what you’re looking for and budget. I’ve got two strokers and as others have said they feel much closer to traditional sex and so definitely a good experience but does need cleaning and drying so just needs to be considered.
My favourite toy in a remote control stroker because it offers both pressure and vibration patterns so adds an additional dimension to play time
Yes in my opinion, sometimes I can’t be arsed with the clean up but they do feel good so worth using when a bit more time is available.
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Similar to @Mitchell990 my husband uses a Fleshlight most of the time when he wanks and has done for some years now. He has the Stoya, Ice and most recently the Angela White sleeves and is normally watching porn when he wanks which can be 20 minutes or more.
He does also use my wand with the head attachment which he says is just amazing and great for hands free but can only last about a minute (seriously) as the vibration is so good 
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Fleshlights definitely do enhance the experience as well as strokers but depends on the type of sensations you’d like to achieve 
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For me the fleshlight was a waste of money , not that great of feeling and cleaning is too much work . I prefer a simple stroker or more often my hand . The thing about my hand is they are always right there , no advanced planning required .
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You’ve already probably got enough replies now, but here’s my 2 pennies.
If you’re expecting it to feel like the real thing then you’re going to be disappointed, BUT if you go in just looking for a bit of a change then you might like it. Some love it, some hate it - I’m in the camp of that I love all 3 of mine (one for each female hole)… the mouth is my favourite of the 3.
It’s a little time consuming and unsightly cleaning and drying it, but if you fancy something a bit different/special then it’s great. I bring mine out once in a blue moon.
My suggestions: don’t bother with the quick shot (I didn’t really like it), use lots of lube, play with the tightening/loosening thing at the bottom, never forget to clean it with the powder as it makes it feel so soft, and get the ones based on specific women. If you like it, I’d also throw in to buy another hole, for some variety.
If your lady is into it then you can incorporate it into sex, same way as you might bring a dildo into your couple play.
Bottom line - If you have £50 or so that you’re not going to miss if you don’t like it then take a punt for sure.
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I have the Fleshlight Flight and love it! Best thing I cum in, other than my Wife 
I have other strokers but Flight is best for me. I dont find cleaning it that much of a hassle? I wash it whilst Im in the shower and just air dry it, thats it! No powder etc. You can also get a suction cup to attach it to the wall etc for in the shower. Flight needs an extra shower attachment though.
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Think they are a waste of money and either use your hand or buy a Tenga.
When Tengas first came to the UK there were multiple threads on which was best. I bought a Fleshlight before the Tengas and it broke after awhile, think I binned its replacement some years ago. Still use the Tenga on occasion.
Bit of oil and hand …
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