Haha I’m so passive on debates
I didn’t realise my profile was on private but yes I’m now 30 and probably going through a quarter life crisis I think!
Oddly and probably sounds contradictory for me but looking back I’ve actually had a few friends with benefits in the past even though at the time I didn’t necessarily class it as that, but they all ended up going iffy or run their course so to speak.
One that sticks in mind was with an older guy, late 50s, and it was kinda nice but I didn’t really enjoy it as felt pointless and the main reason that kept me going back was to see his animals and to try push myself to be more social, so in ways I saw it as a condition I had to provide in order to enjoy spending time with his many animals
I don’t know how else to say this, but stop being friends with them.
I make it super clear that there are men I want a sexual relationship that’s 100% about fantasies and control in the bedroom. But it has to stay there. No breakfasts, no dates for drinks, no texting about life. I do not want to see them in my normal life and have to think about what we did in bed, or how they think of me.
What I’ve learned is that some men will decide that the person they had in bed is the same person you are out of bed. They’ll bug you and push for more contact, but it’s not about who you are or real feelings, it’s about how much they want you to be available to them in bed. They want that fantasy girl on speed dial.
