Hi mechanic. Hey not everyone is like that. It sounds like you have had bad experiences. There are some very nice and genuine people around but there will always be the not so good. ((HUGS)) XX
thanks for all your kind comments they mean alot xx
I think mark twain said it best. The more I learn about people the more I like my dog. Seriously though I'm in my late 30s and I was only commenting recently to a friend how the younger people in our company, particularly new graduates seem to lack certain social or communication skills. We reckon it's because face to face communication is being replaced by technology.
I spend too much time on here talking to complete strangers about mostly inane topics when I could spend the time talking to real people ( you know what I mean )
Maybe we should all look up from our screens and live a little. Just a thought. That said,they're are times when I would give anything to live all alone in a cabin in the woods.
butterflybee wrote:
Yes exactly!
I always go out of my way to help my friends and would do anything for them, but as soon as I am not able to do something for them, I'm seen as the bad person! It gets so draining, to the point where I sometimes wonder if it's worth the effort!
I'm exactly like this!! Its been worse since I went to college and they all stayed in sixth-form which was ages ago but because I live further away from them I never get invited to things, I'm probably not even a thought in their head yet I'm always helping them if they're in need.
I hve like no social life because of this plus I spend a lot of time working hard though it shows because, out of my previous friendship group I'm the only one with a car and a proper job but tbh I don't see the point in trying with them.
I like to have a partner because then I have someone other than my family to talk to, I'm great friends with my exes mum and auntie because I get on better with older people, those my age don't seem to be at the same maturity level...it's quite sad really to say I have a limited friend circle :( but its not just me who should try, so I don't bother anymore. X
You're far from the only one, mechanic! I very often feel the same and very often convince myself that I have no friends at all when I'm in a bit of a low mood. In reality I have a couple of very close friends and they are the ones that really matter, the fact that I don't have a wider social group is becoming less important to me for the most part. What I do miss is having a partner who I could call my best friend, my ex and I were so close, closer than I had ever been with anyone else, and tbh I miss having that.
Same thing happens to me too so you are far from being alone on this one. It's extremely frustrating to the point you find it hard to understand why....
i was brought up spending time with much older people so i seem to get on with older people. Now im in my 40s i seem to get on with some of the younger generation quite well but struggle with people my own age .When i see people i know arranging things together i wonder what ive done wrong
Friends are those we will not see for mths or years, but when we do we carry on as if only saw them yesterday. Usually you can count these true friends on one hand. I have one, and trust him implicitly.
Everyone else is just someone you associate with, and these will come and go like the seasons.
Tiberius wrote:
Friends are those we will not see for mths or years, but when we do we carry on as if only saw them yesterday. Usually you can count these true friends on one hand. I have one, and trust him implicitly.
Everyone else is just someone you associate with, and these will come and go like the seasons.
This is me. Apart from my husband, I have one really, really good friend. I didn't see her for about 6 years but when we did meet again, it was like we had never been apart. I can genuinely say that I love that girl!
I'm exactly the same! I have no friends at all tbh. Had some from school who all cut me out. Made some at uni but they used to go out without telling me and I heard them laughing slagging me off once so couldn't be arsed with that.
i think it's half because I'm not good at socialising, learning disabilities make it hard for me to communicate, and half because of my own standards, I think friends should stand up for you and be there when you need them.
but I have the OH so it's ok, he's incredible