Something I've noticed about my fantasies from a very young age is that I am very rarely a woman in them. In fact, I tend to mentally take the role of a very dominant man. This isn't something that concerns me as I am very confident within my sexuality in real life (I am bi-curious and exceptionally female, and enjoy being sp) but is something I'm interested in, I guess in a slight psychological perspective..
In real life I am a very passive, 'doormat-ish' type of person. Quiet in company I don't know, eager to please, dislike arguments that are for the sake of arguments, generally dislike needless confrontation. I wonder if becoming something I am absolutely not (a dominant, controlling, aggressive male) particularly turns me on because it's so far from who I am.
During sex dominance continues to turn me on; being in control of my partner and dictating play. Although I also like being a reasonably unobedient (so I am punished) submissive type.
I just wondered how other people's fantasies related to their actual characters, and whether anybody else regularly fantasises about being a different gender during masturbation?