I’m sorry to hear your experience has the sad/frustrating aspect to it. I can see how that would be, sometimes I look at stuff and go, yes that’s definitely something I would want to do - put it in the fantasy folder - but by equal measure there is plenty I see that I would not do, and I try to put my mind in a place of - the same is for my OH, plenty he would, plenty he would not, and sometimes they don’t match.
While physically we always respect the others feelings, and would never push anything, in my mind I say “it’s not for us… yet” because with time, trust and the ever evolving human experience, you never know when a light will go on for something. It’s good for me to not get everything I want all the time. It’s good for me to practice not succumbing to comparison or jealousy. But I make peace with the fact that it might never happen, despite the frustration and that is why fantasies exist. What is a world without fantasies? If you live every single one out, the mystery, the excitement and the expectation will eventually be doused by reality of actually doing it. Of course you want to do it. But actually doing it does pose the risk of taking away some of the magic.
I don’t know if that made any sense but that’s just how I deal with it 
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I was thinking how my self pleasure activities would be if I had not found this forum . I do not even want to guess where I would be without it , and all you beautiful people .
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Very much so learnt so much from so many of you wonderful people
Definitely. Partly through testing, as we’ve been fortunate to try a variety of toys we otherwise wouldn’t have for a number of reasons, but mostly through the sharing of great ideas!
Whoever was first to stick a clit suction stimulator on their nipples is a genius 
