I was doom scrolling the other day, and saw a woman had given her best mate a spare key to clear out her sex toy collection should she die first.
I’ve got an eye opening array of toys and items, going back 20 years, and whilst not necessarily ashamed of anything, I’d certainly question my kids having to work out what to do with it all.
Never occurred to me, but do others have any arrangements in place?
I haven’t got a plan in place but will be putting one together.
I’ve have come across other people toys in my job 
and they always seemed to be really embarrassed by them being visible to other people 
Yep! My sister is on it 
my deliveries already get sent to her address or for post office collection 
The plan’s been in place for years 
No, and dear lord it would take some clearing now…
However, when I was a DPhil student, I was living in a shared house and had just a few toys in a drawer. I then had a really bad car accident a month before I was due to move out (100% the other drivers fault for overtaking a lorry on a completely blind road), anyway, I was in hospital for a while and my parents had to go and pack up my room. I had been with my boyfriend (my now OH of 15 years) only a few months but had to send him to my shared house to remove my sex toys before my parents arrived 
. My housemates knew exactly why he was there and one of the guys was pissing himself laughing about it when I next saw him. Good boyfriend to go on a sex toy collecting mission so early in our relationship. If I suddenly died now, I think he’d have to hire a skip!
Oh God I really should get on board with this idea!
It’s one of those things you think of now and then but never do anything about. If I go first then it’ll be left to my husband to deal with it
Hahahaha it’s not something I’ve ever thought of but now I’m worried if we were to both meet an unfortunate end at the same time 
When I was about 14 I accidentally came across some of my parents sex toys, and as a teenage boy was absolutely mortified! If something happens to both my wife and I, it’s likely that my parents would be the people to come in to our house to sort through stuff, and having seen their sex toys I know for a fact that they won’t be judgemental if they found ours .
No I don’t but if I am to have an untimely end I’ve got siblings who will be quite bewildered by what I’ve been doing in private.
No. Why on earth should I? I have sex toys, get over it. I’m not embarrassed. It’s their problem not mine.
Luv this response. 
It’s topics like these that shouldn’t be allowed, now I’m worrying what people will think… Wait a minute it doesn’t matter as I will be dead and not know. Pannic over…
I dont have anything in place but i do have an expansive toy and restraints collection etc.
I think if anything i will put a subtle clause in my will.
“To my dear friend, i leave to you £500, dispose of boxes/items from here, here and here. No questions asked”.
What a great question and one that must happen from time to time. I have not got a plan but something to look into. I have thought about some single friends that have died recently and wondered about relatives clearing their houses.
If i went first hubby would just get rid of what we have. Most of it is for me anyway and he doesnt like using toys on himself. If he went first then i will definitely be keeping them but get rid of the restraints and spreader bars. It would be up to my nephew to sort through our stuff which would be an eye opener for him, i could just imagine him thinking who knew aunty could be so naughty.
Your nephew could see a whole new side to aunty. @Wood-Nymph Enjoy and have lots of fun.
No, but I should probably implement something. Ironically it probably wouldn’t be a friend but my brother, who knows about and is sound with my lifestyle. I’d leave instructions just to strap up the tallboy and dispose of it whole so he doesn’t have to deal what’s inside
I would imagine that both of my sons would be
a) not at all surprised
b) proud
if they discovered our toys, implements and clothing collection.
Either way I wouldn’t care at all.
I’ve heard of this with some my other friends!! I haven’t got anything in place shockingly but one my best friends was so paranoid about it all they ended up getting rid of all their toys themselves to save the embarrassment of discovery
We do, but should the worst happen and family ends up disvovering our toys after we passed, I wouldn’t care because I’d be too busy being dead to feel embarrassment..!