Having sex vs making love

Rowan wrote:

telemachus wrote:

WandA wrote:

telemachus wrote:

I just really hate the phrase "making love" .....aside from anything else it makes me picture Chef

It makes me think of those really annoying Chistian types...

I want to fuck sometimes, OK? I don't care if God's putting me on his hell list!

Yeah....I have feelings like that on a daily basis.

Thanks a lot guys. I just love being frequently tormented, pitied, scorned and mocked by some of the arrogant non- Christians around. As one of the 'really annoying Christian types' I genuinely enjoy love-making, sex and fucking, and tend to use different terms relating to the mood and the way each make me feel irrespective of 'love-level'.

If you really are of of the "annoying" Christians, then maybe you should attempt to be less annoying External Media

My comments come from my day to day experiences with annoying Christians. That is not to say that all Christians are annoying, nor indeed that annoying-ness is confined to one religion, or even religion itself. Some people are annoying. I take a dislike to that annoyance coming in religious flavour.

If a Christian can keep their Christianity to themselves, then I can keep my mockery to myself. Seems like a fair trade, no? Friends all round!

On the topic - does anyone seriously use the word "shag"? I find myself using it occasionally, but always have a little giggle afterwards. I always feel a little Austin Powers when I say it and can't imagine using the word seriously.

I should point out that the first line of my post was a joke - just in case that does not come across over the interwebs...

Loves huni wrote:

i like 'making love' and having good f**k equally really, it all depends on my mood

If im in a sensitive, loving, caring, cuddling mood i really like to be kissed and caressed and generally take things slower with a lot of gentle foreplay, more stroking, touching, a little teasing and generally more sex on an emotional level (which is what i could really do ith right now)

but alternatively i do also have moods where i dont care where or when as long as he f*!?s me, normally when in this mood i like it to be a bit more adventurous, more 'hard-core' toys, spank paddles, bigger vibes, hand cuffs etc. or do it somewher different like in the car or down a dark lane at night or something, ive not had one of these moods for a while but i tend to go through phases, the sex being equally good and satisfying but it all depends whether im feeling all emotionally connected or if i just feel the need to be filled and brought to immidiate orgasm!

i have similar moods when masturbating and this often decides which kind of toys i use and how i use them, for how long - i can have a nice full day solo session with numerous orgasms taking thing slowly and giving myself lots of self indulgence an pleasure (though i dont often have all ay to do this) but can also have a quick session using just either a powerful rabbit or bullet and quickly bring myself to orgasm, after one or two the urge tends to die down a bit :) x

<wistful look> Oh to be able to spend AN ENTIRE DAY masturbating! You lucky bugger.

I told my Sir I loved him when he was fucking me in the ass and grabbing my neck hard enough to bruise the other evening. Different strokes... ;)

Rowan wrote:

Thank you for clarifying that.

No worries, I remember going to some mini concert thing once with Ad once and on our way our we were blocked by a man I can only describe as SS officer looking, it was super uncanny and nerving! Blonde, blue eyes, over 6ft, slim, slim nose, glasses. We then received a lecture about why blah blah blah and blah blah blah. To cut a long story short, he became quite confrontational and so did I... because I was right and he was a nutcase attempting to manipulate people who had gone there for a good night. Predatory bastards.

telemachus wrote:

If a Christian can keep their Christianity to themselves, then I can keep my mockery to myself. Seems like a fair trade, no? Friends all round!

On the topic - does anyone seriously use the word "shag"? I find myself using it occasionally, but always have a little giggle afterwards. I always feel a little Austin Powers when I say it and can't imagine using the word seriously.

As for the Christians here... Well yes, if someone wants to argue the world is 6,000 years old you are a subject of ridicule. If people hold their beliefs then fair dos!

As for shag... Indeed. It's one of those childish phrases now. My mate used to always say 'bash'. That sounded toolish too.

telemachus wrote:

On the topic - does anyone seriously use the word "shag"? I find myself using it occasionally, but always have a little giggle afterwards. I always feel a little Austin Powers when I say it and can't imagine using the word seriously.

I've caught myself typing it a number of times but I always correct myself because I feel like a dork

(just thought I'd put another word out there...)

CurlyCoupleWife wrote:

I've caught myself typing it a number of times but I always correct myself because I feel like a dork

(just thought I'd put another word out there...)

I think it makes you sound more of a dweeb to be honest ;o)

CurlyCpl wrote:

CurlyCoupleWife wrote:

I've caught myself typing it a number of times but I always correct myself because I feel like a dork

(just thought I'd put another word out there...)

I think it makes you sound more of a dweeb to be honest ;o)

Oooo I remember Dweebs and Nerds the sweets! Those were the days...

ah the rosy glow of nostalgia...although my memory must be going in my old age - had to google the dweebs sweets to remind myself of them...,

me and OH fuck.... I have never used making love... although i love OH to bits .... i call it smoosh hahahaha..... we flick between the two and usually if we start all gentle we will finish off being rather rough with each other :D

I like to enjoy both. Though I hate I saying "making love" - it's so vintage and not in a good way

LittleMiss1981UK wrote:

I like to enjoy both. Though I hate I saying "making love" - it's so vintage and not in a good way

I think that is why I dont say it ... its not really "me".... and I'd die giggling if OH said it :D ... we fuck or smoosh. We have loads of words we use for banging the hell out of each other!

occhiverdi wrote:

LittleMiss1981UK wrote:

I like to enjoy both. Though I hate I saying "making love" - it's so vintage and not in a good way

I think that is why I dont say it ... its not really "me".... and I'd die giggling if OH said it :D ... we fuck or smoosh. We have loads of words we use for banging the hell out of each other!

Me and my OH are the same.

I often just say, "Get your Bellend Out"

I'd have to say it depends on my mood, there's times when i just want to slow it down and have lots of kissing & cuddling. Other times i just want him to fuck me senseless and leave me exhausted.

We don't really have a word for it. I guess that says a lot. We "snuggle", but that can and often does just mean wrm fuzzy duvet-based closeness. I don't really identify with "making love". I have sex, which to me means everything strating from love and working up, and I occasionally fuck. Very occasionally. Once, really, nw I come to think of it.

I tend to think of "fucking" as being a specifically self-centred act: you focus on your pleasure alone and the OH is just along for the ride. They may enjoy the hell out of it, but that's secondary. (My definition, only!)

I got really freaked out recently when a guy I was just shagging kind of made love to me, or as he called it, sensual sex. I wasn't expecting it and I suddenly felt very very single because it stirred up all sorts of desires for cuddles and such

Hopelessly Horny wrote:

I'd have to say it depends on my mood, there's times when i just want to slow it down and have lots of kissing & cuddling. Other times i just want him to fuck me senseless and leave me exhausted.

Yep.... i do love getting the text before he arrives going "im going to fuck you till you can't walk" that works for me and I know im in for a dirty night ;)

Ive never been the biggest fan of "making love". Its nice to do on occasion (and i havent for a while actually..), but a lot of the time I like to have sex for sex.

Personally I've always been a bit unclear as to what the difference is. Cant say I object particularly to either but I think there are some of the more 'fun' elements of sex that i might miss if I were 'making love' all the time...

Making love?

Is that where you turn the lights off and hold hands against candlelight??

Ewwwwwwww. You kinky perverts.