Don't get me wrong, I'm totally in favour of the spontaneous quickie, the take-me-now-or lose-me-forever fuck, the can't-get-beyond-the-hallway shag, but sometimes......
I confess I'm a born planner; I will take time out to plan a sexy evening (dinner-light, not too spicy, sensual on the palette; environment- lighting, scent, music, bedding; activities- bath together, games, massage, porn; attire- lingerie, easy off clothes, fuck me shoes etc) with the sole intention of setting the scene for a wild night of unbridled passion. I recently invested a lot of time and effort in setting up such an evening for me and my beloved (you may have seen my previous posts seeking advice on achieving the perfect hairless pussy), complete with X-rated invitation card that asked for an RSVP by e-mail setting out his desires.
Now, the evening was not quite a total disaster but to cut a long story short he made no effort whatsoever and this pissed me off greatly. When I queried him on this he said it was because he doesn't like the idea of planning for sex. I pointed out that a) we have a 3 yrs old child in the house so spontenaity is sometimes pushing it a bit b) this was supposed to be like a date and there is no reason why we can't have 'date nights' to keep the old love life ticking over and finally c) if he can't be bothered to make an effort or to even acknowledge the effort I've put in then I feel devalued.
I asked him to at least consider putting in some date nights on the calendar so we set aside time each week to just be with each other (not necessarily for sex). I left the ball in his court and so far not a saussage!
Am I unreasonble in my annoyance? Am I unusual in attending to these little details once in a while? Am I being a complete twat?
Your candid opinions wanted!