Occasionally I have trouble staying hard when me and the OH are having some fun. It doesn't happen that often but when it does it can be very frustrating even though my wife is very understanding! With a weekend away for our anniversary coming up in a few months I'd hate for it to happen then, even though we're planning on taking toys and other things to enjoy! I've thought about getting some viagra or similar but wouldn't want to come reliant on that when it's only a problem occasionally, although it would be fun to try and see the results! Just wondering if a cock ring help in that department as I've never used one?
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Thanks for the reply. We put it down to tiredness, it doesn't happen very often but when it does its always in the evening. Never had a problem in the morning or afternoon. Think I'll buy a cockring to try, it's would be a good addition to the bedroom regardless!
It might be worth seeing your GP. I had a similar problem and it turned out that my Testosterone level was almost off the bottom of the scale. He prescribed a hormone replacement gel and everything is back to normal now.
If it isn’t a regular occurrence, I would try to not give it much thought. As you said, you may have been tired but also things like alcohol, medications, stress and just having other things on your mind can all play a part.
The worst thing you can do though is focus on it as it will become a self fulfilling prophecy. Just try to stay in the moment, enjoying the sensations don’t focus on your erection.
A cock ring certainly isn’t a bad idea as it will help maintain blood in the penis. I would suggest buying it and trying it out before your anniversary though. That way, you can see if you like it and you won’t have built up a ton of expectations, which when coupled with the fact it is a special occasion, may make you over think the issue and make it worse. If that makes any sense at all?
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Yeah that makes perfect sense thank you! Although it's frustrating when it does happen we try and laugh it off and focus on other things.
Definitely a chat with your GP & perhaps some blood tests to check on a few general things. For example, I've had very low Iron levels, which has been making me feel tired for a start - after taking a liquid Iron supplement my ED problems which were becoming more frequent, have virtually disappeared. I very rarely have need for Viagra now.
I also sometimes have issues staying hard, particularly when changing positions and/or using condom (wife is no longer using contraception due to issues with coil) and wondered how effective cock rings are, having just bought one the other day.
Tried it on first myself and it looked effective though need to practice with the wife - will give her some warning first before bringing it out!
Is it sufficient to be trimmed downstairs or does it need full blown shave to avoid stray hair getting trapped in?
Absolutely follow Rockstar & Peggly's advice mate - get a GP to check you out as this could be a psychological thing or early signs of a different issue altogether;
Erectile dysfunction can have a range of causes, both physical and psychological. Physical causes include: narrowing of the blood vessels going to the penis – commonly associated with high blood pressure (hypertension), high cholesterol or diabetes. hormonal problems.
You've got plenty of time before your weekend away so act upon it now.
Good luck
I would second the idea of using a cock ring and trying it out in advance. My partner when through a stage of anxiety induced ED, have a cock ring really helped his confidence and has removed the psychological block.
So last night ED reared its ugly head again but this time we handled it differently. Instead of getting frustrated like I have been in the past I made light of it, even joked about it. Then with a bit of laughter and making fun out of the old boy we went back to some foreplay and it wasn’t long before I was rock hard again and we ended up having some of the best sex we’ve had in ages!
That’s how I’m handling it next time it happens!
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Best way to do it. If you get stressed out, it won’t happen. Stay calm and relaxed about it and it’ll happen. Good job @Funbigguy 
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I think half the battle is getting the expectation its going to happen out of your head!
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You’re absolutely right. The more pressure you put on yourself, the harder it will become. 
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I think it’s the opposite that’s true. 
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Going through a phase of this again, struggling to even keep hard when on top at times. However I do wake up with good firm erections in morning so wondering if it’s psychological issue. Wife is very patient and understanding and managed to have satisfying end to sex last night with me managing to eventually get hard enough to finish inside her after using vibrating dildo to get her off first (the visual aspect of this probably helped me).
I’m only in my mid 40s and in good health, feels like my issue is intermittent though even on good day I can lose erection when changing position. Will probably try cock rings a bit and book appointment with GP if things don’t improve.
Anyone else in same boat?
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