Whenever I’m able to sleep with someone 1 of 3 thing happen
The get scared and they withdraw.( Nothing wrong with this consent is everything)
We try to have sex and I just don’t fit
I last to long during sex and I just don’t finish
And whenever I were condoms I don’t feel anything is that normal or am I just desensitized
I can’t specifically comment from my personal experience, but my wife does like big cocks. In fact the bigger the better.
I have the polar opposite, where I’ve had women who don’t want to have sex as I’m just too small. Again for the reasons you’ve outlined, that’s fine, but somewhat embarrassing. This is particularly the case when we’ve started, but it’s not successful for her. Is that the same for you?
I’ve never had issues with condoms, other than finding the smaller sizes.
I guess this all comes down to personal choice and preferences. But to reassure you, there’s someone out there for everyone.
Condoms can reduce feeling, try ultra thin ones, you might more feeling through these. Though taking an age to orgasm can be a combination of a number things, including mood and performance anxiety, which might be true, and loops into your point one, which is removal of consent.
On the too big side, that would be more about foreplay and lubrication. Take time to have your partner relaxed, the vagina naturally expands with arousal and lubricates. The addition of further lubrication can only help.
I don’t know how often you masturbate, but that can reduce sensitivity and/or increase time it takes. So if you do it a lot maybe try taking a break.
I usually find that if I’m taking a long time to finish that’s the reason.
Or that’s my experience, anyway.
As above, the vagina naturally expands very significantly when aroused. This means that nearly all vaginas can accommodate nearly all penises. Perhaps try using more lubricant and penetrating more gradually - most of the nerve endings are in the outermost third of the vagina, so it’s likely to be more stimulating for her to use shallow thrusts rather than immediately trying to get your whole penis inside. Sometimes using fingers or a toy first can help.
Condoms will always reduce the sensation.
Getting the right size condoms definitely helps, I find tight condoms definitely kill the mood. Pasante Super King and the most comfortable condoms but if you are over 8 inches in length then these may still be too small. Durex Condom XXL are longer and take just over 9 inches in length but are not as girthy. Unfortunately LH doesn’t sell either of these condoms
Hard to believe you are to big. I seen a 10 lbs baby coming out of one. You must be huge.
It is rare I see someone calling themselves “too small” on a message board. There are both males and females into it if you want to play in other ways. Regardless, good on you for self confidence. For the record, I consider myself “average”.
For a long while X-large condoms weren’t available in the corner store. I’ve been too big (the head is wrist thick-my wrist-I’m 6’4” tall) for two gals-yes but had to have c-sections to have children. Definitely too thick for a decent bj (Those two gals couldn’t open their mouths wide enough to take in the head). Now they make condoms that are xxl which I need for the girth not the length (just shy of 7”). And never anal sexy (“Hell no!” Usual response). Now with all sorts of lubed available and mail order condoms I can use them without worrying…
Yes I definitely agree with getting the right fit condom. For years I had been using standard size ones thinking one size fits all. I never think of myself being overly large but when I tried a passate king size what a difference. So much easier to get on and feel less suffocated and have more feeling and also less likely to have an accident. I expected it to be baggy, I really wish I had tried them years ago.
If you are exceptionally big I noticed LH do EXS jumbo extra large condoms as well as kingsize so may be worth giving them ago
It is a relay isn’t it? When I was trying to put on the available condoms from the store, I forced them on, in what it seemed millimeter by millimeter. Talk about cock blocking. I was with this beautiful light skinned gal and in my bed when I tried to force on an undersized condom (esp working it over the fat glans) on, which killed my erection. I dropped her off both of us disappointed (she wasn’t into oral sex).