Whenever I’m able to sleep with someone 1 of 3 thing happen
The get scared and they withdraw.( Nothing wrong with this consent is everything)
We try to have sex and I just don’t fit
I last to long during sex and I just don’t finish
And whenever I were condoms I don’t feel anything is that normal or am I just desensitized
I can’t specifically comment from my personal experience, but my wife does like big cocks. In fact the bigger the better.
I have the polar opposite, where I’ve had women who don’t want to have sex as I’m just too small. Again for the reasons you’ve outlined, that’s fine, but somewhat embarrassing. This is particularly the case when we’ve started, but it’s not successful for her. Is that the same for you?
I’ve never had issues with condoms, other than finding the smaller sizes.
I guess this all comes down to personal choice and preferences. But to reassure you, there’s someone out there for everyone.
Condoms can reduce feeling, try ultra thin ones, you might more feeling through these. Though taking an age to orgasm can be a combination of a number things, including mood and performance anxiety, which might be true, and loops into your point one, which is removal of consent.
On the too big side, that would be more about foreplay and lubrication. Take time to have your partner relaxed, the vagina naturally expands with arousal and lubricates. The addition of further lubrication can only help.
I don’t know how often you masturbate, but that can reduce sensitivity and/or increase time it takes. So if you do it a lot maybe try taking a break.
I usually find that if I’m taking a long time to finish that’s the reason.
Or that’s my experience, anyway.
As above, the vagina naturally expands very significantly when aroused. This means that nearly all vaginas can accommodate nearly all penises. Perhaps try using more lubricant and penetrating more gradually - most of the nerve endings are in the outermost third of the vagina, so it’s likely to be more stimulating for her to use shallow thrusts rather than immediately trying to get your whole penis inside. Sometimes using fingers or a toy first can help.
Condoms will always reduce the sensation.
Getting the right size condoms definitely helps, I find tight condoms definitely kill the mood. Pasante Super King and the most comfortable condoms but if you are over 8 inches in length then these may still be too small. Durex Condom XXL are longer and take just over 9 inches in length but are not as girthy. Unfortunately LH doesn’t sell either of these condoms
Hard to believe you are to big. I seen a 10 lbs baby coming out of one. You must be huge.
It is rare I see someone calling themselves “too small” on a message board. There are both males and females into it if you want to play in other ways. Regardless, good on you for self confidence. For the record, I consider myself “average”.