Advise me please?
As a male virgin, my intuitive response is that the opening, especially when lubricated/heated up: very. But the inside not so much: its got all sorts of artificial nubs etc.
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I think youâll get a better idea of how accurate the internal likeness is from our members who have penetrated both a fleshlight and a vagina 
Iâm afraid I canât comment on the internal likeness, but for the external - you would be correct. The Fleshlight Girls range is modelled on the vulvaâs of real pornstars
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No problem. Sorry, this was badly worded on my part. Iâm a little new to this foru,.m.
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And bonus question: is there any toy which is more realistic than a Fleshlight. Not keen on buying a toros/doll?
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As a woman who possess a real one i cant say as i dont have a penis. However, a womans vagina is not full of nodules and bumps unless she has warts or growths that need investigating by a medical professional. Also a woman can use her muscles inside to tighten around the penis to provide added friction and stimulus, which is why i think they add the bits inside a fleshlight to try and replicate the sensation.
Hopefully someone will answer you who has experienced both the real thing and a fleshlight.
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I asked my OH who answered your question by saying theyâre completely different. And a Fleshlight doesnât come close to the real thing in his opinion.
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They are not the same, but from having used several male sex toys theyâre, in my view, the nearest thing Iâve tried.
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I would say similar when used with lube but not the same. The main difference is that a Fleshlight is an inanimate object, where as a vagina has a living person attached to it. And it is the connection and experience with that person and how their vagina reacts to what you are doing which makes it a more fulfilling experience.
As a virgin I would say that it is a step up from using your hand to masturbate, but will not totally prepare you for penetrating a vagina.
Iâd also be interested to hear about the blowjob/mouth version of the Fleshlight too - how that compares to the real thing?
A fleshlight is fine, but nowhere as good as the real thing.
Did have one as my wife started travelling more for work, and didnât want to become dependent on my hand.
It was great at first, but I got rid of it recently, just didnât do it for me anymore.
As a virgin though, No harm in trying.
I wouldnât worry too much about realism, itâs a toy at the end of the day.
The mouth sleeve is nothing like receiving a blowjob. I love fleshlights but was a little disappointed by this one.
It was kind of nice as a feeling⌠just donât expect it to feel like a blowjob.
As a woman who reviews sex toys (including ones for men), Iâd say theyâre nothing alike, and similar to what @DLJL said, a with a vagina you have a whole person. Itâs the same with dildos and penises: itâs a means to an end but it wonât give you more than that.
Also, a lot of toys are cold, so unless you have a warming one, youâre not going to get the heat that a vagina will give you. Itâs somethng that puts me off of them, to be honest: quite how cold they are.
Fleshlights you can warm up with a sleeve warmer/warm lube canât you?
Not saying this is an excuse for badly behaved, but I never really naturally understood the relational side of sex. My default way of thinking is to want to detach physical sensation from relational intimacy. When I was younger, I never understood âis sex is all about personal pleasure, why do you even need another person in the first place. Again, not saying thatâs a good/right way of thinking, but it does expose my own way of understanding this. Potentially its just a extremely risk averse/efficiency way of approach life.
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If they fit, yes. Youâd need to check your measurements though.
Obviously thatâs no issue with warming lube, though I donât know if the coolness of the TPE would counter the warming lube. Thatâs one for science.
I kind of understand it; I was (am) fiercely independent so other people to me are kind of âI like you, but I donât need youâ. Some people get really upset by that - they need to be needed - but I donât need anyone, I only want them. Similarly I saw relationships as kind of transactional, like why would someone want to be with me? Why do they want to come and complicate my life when I already have everything I need? Ugh, so inconsiderate!
Itâs a learning process, but youâve recognised it and you can change it. Well done
A vagina is actually physiologically fairly complex. It contains glands which secrete fluid so that it self-lubricates. It expands when aroused, it has muscles that can be contracted voluntarily but also some muscles that contract involuntarily at orgasm. A fleshlight is a simulacrum of this, but it can never rival the real thing.
Even if it could perfectly recreate a vagina, using a fleshlight would still be a pale imitation of sex with a living, breathing woman.
Iâve had a couple and they are probably the best toy on the market for life like stimulation. But as most say they arenât really like the real thing. You could probably warm them up to feel more realistic but (and no offence intended) as a virgin, I guess you have nothing to compare it toâ
You canât beat the real thing
Welcome to the forum
All i can say is really all been said
A real vagina is a lot more complex with muscles and feeling with nature fluids as lube
The feeling is a lot different from being inside a real vagina to a fleshlight
A real vagina is a wonderful female organ that reacts to the penetration of a penis inside it, with movement that gives contractions to feelings and vaginal fluids as a result
Plus there is an emotional connection with the person your having sex with, its not just penetration
Fleshlight are a very pleasurable feeling and does simulate penetration into a vagina but thatâs about it, it offers a different feeling from other masturbation toys with the ripples and dots inside it
I have a realistic vagina fleshlight and its very pleasurable, especially if you warm up and use lube and with a stroking motion the inside stimulates you to orgasm (Iâve had some amazing orgasms with mine)
So if you want a different masturbation experience its worth getting one but it wonât be like having sex with a real vagina
Hope this helps
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The inside doesnât feel different for the reasons youâd think though, I would argue that at least. Properly warmed and lubed, a fleshlight can be good. The key (and Iâm sure obvious) difference is actually that it doesnât move itself. The unexpected nature of another person pushing down further on you or squeezing is something that a Fleshlight simply canât replicate. The internal parts of a Fleshlight do give some nice stimulation but donât expect it to be comparable for anything more than the first thrust.
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First things first - masturbating with a fleshlight or other masturbation sleeve is a completely different experience to having sex. The connection, the warmth, your partnerâs rhythm, the sounds she makes, the way she holds you - these canât be replicated.
But as far as just the feeling on your penis goes, there are some toys that get pretty close. Iâve got a number of fleshlights, which feel great. But they arenât super realistic in my opinion. So far in my experience, the most realistic feeling toys are NPG Meiki Onahole toys. When warmed up and lubed lightly, they are incredibly realistic. The ones Iâve tried are the Meiki Zhang Xiao Yu and the Riho Fujimori onahole by NPG. Recommend those ones highly!
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