In my early teens I was so modest I wouldn’t use a change room in a department store. By early twenties it was game on and I wanted to explore almost everything. No idea where it comes from but a few partners and opportunities certainly made things happen
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We have always been experimental and open to try new things. When we first met we soon found out that we shared this view of sex as an adventure to experience.
We did a lot of reading and joining LH buying toys and reading this forum opened up our options. We are up to try anything once. Some things were not for us ( eg golden showers) as we didn’t get anything from it but others like pegging are firm favourites.
Being vanilla is fine for some of our friends but we love the adventurous side of our sex life.
For me it was a very long road to my current level . Over my life I had been curious whenever I heard about something new to me . Some times it was my partner that wanted to try something , other times it was myself . When I was young , my friends thought of me as being very kinky , if they had any idea the level I am at currently many would be shocked . Highlights in my memory are the first time being tied up , the first time getting properly pegged . It has been a long gradual road , but I think I have advanced much faster after my wife became a non participant . Finding new ways to excite myself .
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For me, boy meets girl, honeymoon period, add a year or two on and it gets boring, u stop trying, affairs happen or other things take priority
If you are going to make a relationship work, u gotta add a little spice.
Look online and see the waves and waves of vanilla cosmopolitan Gak that u go into a coma reading, about how to spice up your marriage /sex life.
Great if you are 18, the virgin Mary or live in an monestry
U get older, u know what you like
U give it a go, and u like it or u don’t.
See things online or in movies, and that looks interesting?
The hard bit is finding a person of equal kink that is willing to play, u might be Try-Sexual but she/he might not be
Then isn’t the difficult bit finding out without divorce 
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I had some hints of it as I was getting older with the porn I leaned towards.
What did it was shortly after I got married I noticed my desire to check out adult toy stores (including Lovehoney) and the products I tended to favour. Eventually that led to me gradually realizing I was kinky and looking up resources,guides, etc.
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For me it was when my first GF cheated on me. Hold on bizarre I know but here is why ….
We was very young and not very sexually experienced. We watched some porn and tried your basic toys etc but that was it. Then after a few years she ended up getting with a guy and he was quite hung and also uncut (I am cut) but after a month or so we got back together. We was away on holiday and drunk and got talking about her getting with him and she revealed his size and that he was uncut etc and on the way back to hotel there was a sex shop and we went in. I said show me how big he was out of one of these and she did and I was like woah fair enough how about I buy it and when we get back you imagine it’s him and she was like ok yeah so we did and it was such a massive turn on for us both. After that night we then went further and bought blindfolds and handcuffs and I would tie her up and blindfold her and play out scenes where she was asleep and I had left her on the bed like that and a mystery man would come in the room and take advantage of her whilst I was gone and it basically stemmed from there.
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I’ve always been slightly kinky. I like to wear crotchless pants or wet look shorts when having sex. During one session with my wife she put a finger up my bum as I came. The feeling was so good that I bought a butt plug from Lovehoney and never looked back.
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That there is the best quote in this entire discussion IMO. Perfect @MrGoodGuy
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Initially it was my wife (then gf) who had heard about rimming and wanted to try it on me…kinda opened the flood gates! We split for a couple of years and I got with a woman who loved to please and would be open to anything I wanted to try (within reason!).
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Born this way, or more to the point no one ever talked about sex so I was allowed to make up my own mind and reading everything I got my hands on allowed me to form my own opinion from the start.
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I blame this forum in the early days that then took me down the dark path to Fetlife. Started out shy not posting photos then a few in underwear now well over 300 photos on there with everything on show.
Im a curious sole and when i see something i want to have a go at i go for it. It has given me great experience both good and bad some things that are in our regular play now and some i will never try again.
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