Hi, I struggle with the fact I get easily turned on and I need to release it and somehow I need to release it while thinking/watching/… a different woman than my gf.
Sadly my gf isn’t open to sharing this kink and for example watch porn together or play fmk while masturbating.
Anyone either found a partner open to this kind of kink, or found a way to be fully committed to your partner even in your thoughts?
It’s not really a kink, it’s natural to be attracted to other people. If your partner gets jealous, that’s the problem.
My husband and I just… striaght up own attractions, I’m also polyamorous and that’s fine. My husband nor I watch porn though, neither of us likes it. We like sex with an emotional connection.
Looking at an attractive person is fine, but masturbating while watching them will get you arested.
I should’ve specified later at home to the thought
Yes it would while in Tesco.
“This has been a terrible misunderstanding, I was just scratching an itch”
I think in private is your business. If your partner gets jealous, that’s something you need to discuss. Granted I might get upset if my husband was masturbating in private but that’s only because I have a high sex drive and rarely say no to him 
Yes i would be a bit more than miffed if hubby said " i am going upstairs for a wank but i do t want sex with you cos i want to fantasize over whoever instead" Especially as its me that has the higher sex drive.
If what you mean is that you enjoy fantasizing about women other than your partner, then that is ok. You are allowed to fantasize, you are allowed to find other people attractive. It crosses a line if you start actually hitting on/flirting with or perusing those people and it becomes more than just a wank fantasy.
Unless you’re in an open relationship. Only then the rules change 
oh yes that is a different story.
Yes I would be so annoyed if my husband preferred to wank over someone else rather than have sex with me, especially since I am always up for it.
Porn isn’t for everyone - you’ll find lots of females who don’t like watching it either. I have friends, with similar attitudes as your girlfriend, who find it uncomfortable and even get angry or jealous. For me that’s what is great about having fantasies and why I think being more open is healthier. I’ll never have a problem with it.
Sorry I completely forgot, welcome to the forum @Jackhammer20 
I hope you are enjoying it here 
Being turned on by other people is perfectly natural and probably unavoidable but why don’t you use it.
Allow yourself to be turned on then hold on to those feelings until you can get with your partner.
Finding someone other than your partner attractive or being aroused by them isn’t a problem. Using that as a catylyst for sex with your partner is. I want my partners fantasies to be about us fullfilling them. Dissasocitive sex means little for me. I need emotional and physical connection.
OMG i thought it was just me that actually doesnt fantasize about other peop!e while having sex with my partner.
I sense it’s quite a common thing for others to be aroused by porn in general and having it help them climax… it don’t necessarily mean anything to the relationship of how much you love your partner or not… 
so in that theory I’d not mind if I had a partner who wanked off to porn
I don’t fantasise about others bit other situations? Absolutely.
It’s hard to feel turned on when you can hear your neighbour vacuuming upstairs