Gem276 wrote:
Still pretty new to BDSM I love to be spanked, flogged or whipped with a crop.
He tends to spank me while we are having sex but I watch a lot of humiliation spanking porn alone. In the films I watch it tends to be OTK and lots of slaps that aren't quite as hard, is this to build up a resistance to the pain/ increase the pleasure?
I really want to be punished and "shown up" for being naughty or getting something wrong. How can I bring it up with him?
How do you like to be spanked? Do you count them or get lots of slaps for a longer period of time?
I really want to shout stop and no and for him to continue on anyway but fear he will stop as he wont want to hurt me or do things against my will.
Why is it I can talk about sex all day long without fear or embarrassment but find it harder to discuss fantasises if they are new?
While I am logged on I thought I would chip in.
The easiest way we found to introduce spanking away from the erotic or sensual type as used in forplay is to role play.
This gets away from having to do something wrong in realtiy to get punished for it , Which I think could get out of hand.as it did in our case and I had to replace a lot of crockery !
Instead of this we tried roleplaying . Quite simple a naughty female college student who needs to be taught a lesson. Very simple to do , a punsihment detention for messing up the homework, bullying ,smoking , your choice really. Decide on how many strokes you want of the hand,pandle ,ridkngcrop but not the cane before you start. Improvise the dialogue and then you get bent over and hit accordingly in your agreed state of dress or undress . Quite simple to do but BOTH of you must be happy in playing the roles.Safe words are essential for any form of BDSM .Think safety .
The reason for starting sofly is to encourage blood to move to that area , to help minimise bruising when imlpements or harder hand spanks are later used.
Right end of break and back to work !