OK, men, how many of us, at the point of orgasm, can bother to set aside enough of our consciousness for a cold-blooded assessment of our orgasmic experience?
Me, I would guess I must have orgasmed something between 20,000 and 25,000 times since the first one. A very respectable proportion of these occurred vaginally, and a delightful minority of them were secured in, er, tighter circumstances. The rest have been manually achieved.
I can remember the first one. I was about 11, and I was sitting on the bog, beating the poor little thing unmercifully. I'd done it before, but without knowing what I was doing, and certainly not knowing what might happen if I did it hard enough and for long enough!
It was just a - well, a nice sensation. Nothing erotic about it! Blimey, what did 'erotic' mean when you were eleven years old, attending a boys-only school and obsessed with postage stamps and fretwork?
I do remember
[a] the delight I felt when I was rising to that exquisite 'peak' ,
[b] the surprise I felt when - suddenly - it happened, and
[c] the shame I felt when, later that day, I had to go to mum and report that, for some inexplicable reason, my little willy was all red and swollen!
"Have you been playing with it", she asked.
"No!" I replied, all wide-eyed and innocent.
I can still see her stifled smirk!
But the other 24,999? Sorry - my mind was elsewhere at the time. I just couldn't tell you what I yelled - if I yelled anything. I don't think I 'groan'.
I think the speed is totally dependent on how positive the 'rise' is. Though I do try to control the speed for her, or my, or his, pleasure. If I remember at the right time.
If I do close my eyes, I have absolutely no idea at what point in the process I do so.
I don't see lights. Isn't that a pre-indication of a detached retina?
I do know that the 'feeling' is an all-over one. Or, more precisely, an all-through one.