We don’t actually use spanking a lot, though there have been times when in the heat of passion we have given each other a loving slap on the butt. It seems there are times when the urge to give her bum a nice swat just overcomes me, especially when going doggy with her on the edge of the bed, and me standing behind her.
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Samantha here. Spanking is my favourite thing. I get a spanking most days. Ben will come home from work and give me a kiss and a spanking.
Sometimes ill get a spanking before, during and after sex.
My absolute favourite though is having anal sex while he spanks me. The feeling of having my ass full and the pain of spanking gives me an instant orgasm
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Nothing says loving like a smack on the butt.
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Mrs W here ……
Just love a bit of spanking, if it’s done properly…… right on the line between stinging a bit and pain …… seems the more the noise the more exactly right it is - Pen says the same …….. and then that glowing warmth, spreading out and caressed by the spanker and kissed and licked ……. oh gawd…….xx
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Mrs W….I think I need a cigarette now! 
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Nope!
For us it’s foreplay leading to pegging
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For us it’s always foreplay AND punishment. It always lesss to sexual activity, but we always find a real reason for it too. 3/4 of the time it’s her spanking me. She keeps a list of my offenses throughout the week.
@Spanky you say you are a sexual sadist. What does that mean for you? I’ve been married a long time and I’ve suspected my husband is a bit of a sadist but he suppresses it. After our recent first spanking session, he quietly told me how much he enjoyed it and asked me if I thought that meant he is a “sick” sadist. I reassured him that it was okay to have these feelings but I know he is unsure about it. How can I help him feel more comfortable?
My husband went through something verh similar. The important thing is to remind him that you consent to and enjoy this, and he wouldn’t enjoy it if you didn’t. The real sickos don’t care about consent or mutual pleasure, only their own 
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@Mouse LOL, actually I describe myself as sensual sadist, same thing I guess. But waht that means for me is that I’m much more into the energy of my play and place emphsis on sex as an end point.
The way that you can asssure him is to communicate why you feel either turned on, what emotions it’s bringing up for you. And as @Tenshadesandme said let him know you are consenting to all of it. Let him know youn trust him and yourself.
Be certain not to over compliment but give him confidence by your actions before, during and after. As you’re just getting started it’s ok to “top from the bottom” give him some directionas to what feels good, what you want more or less so.
And also remind him…sadist…is not a bad word.
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Welcome to the Forum @Kinky8788 And keep the spankings going!