I’ve always wondered how long it takes to refine and understand your tastes, is it about trying new things to you or did you find out organically?
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I personally hope I’ve still not realised everything I’m into.
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I’m still not sure what I’m into and on this open adventure to try discovering it 
The journey never ends. You just have places you take a rest at before the next stage.
Trial and error, trying new things and seeing what we both like.
If we try something and find its not for us, then at least we know.
As others have said the journey is never ending.
I will try anything once - it’s a matter of trying something different and then make a choice afterwards
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It really has been a journey for me. There’s been things I’d enjoyed fantasizing about, watching in porn etc, on my own for many years. But communicating that, and hence exploring some of those things didn’t happen for a long time. I just wasn’t confident in saying what I liked, or I wanted to try.
As I reached my late 40’s (and was likely perimenopausal,) I had a surge in libido, confidence and desire to bring some real excitement into my sex life.
H was more than enthusiastic to talk about and try new things. We’re both 50 and have spent the last 18 months finding out what we’re into, and that is a huge range of hot, sexy, fun things 
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50 years and were still learning and trying new things.
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I’d agree you really never stop discovering new things or twists on some older stuff or things that you did years ago and forgot about
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Until tomorrow.
We are still discovering new things to try and are having a bit of a sexual awking at the moment.
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I would say I didn’t really know myself properly till I was late 20’s and sexually it’s been a case of keeping an open mind and trying pretty much anything, I’m close to 40 and I’ve never been as happy about it as I am now.
mrs is like minded and just recently things have been amazing between us, constantly talking about new stuff and just seeing if it works or not.
I always sort of just knew, tried them, and then realised that I was right 
I’ve discovered some other things along the way, like DDlg, CMNF and polyamory, but mostly it was just foresight 
From what I’ve heard from others, as well as my own experience, I think the journey of sexual discovery never really stops. That being said there’s some thing I’ve always been into for as long as I can remember, I once read a really horrifying article that some kinks are hereditary, do with that information as you will 
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57 years and counting.
I think we all never quite know what we’re into until you actually try something once. I’m nearly 40 and there’s still things I haven’t tried that I may be into, or may not like it as much as I thought I would.
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Definitely an organic process - trying new things and liking them or not, seeing things or reading about them. As others have said the adventure never ends. I wish I had started it sooner but glad I did start and as @Mr.MrsW says, you never know until you try…
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Really started to find out what I was into in my late fourties, and I’m still enjoying the exploration!
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44 years.
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I would say pre menopause our sex life was fairly ordinary, i would wear lingerie, always have done and we dabbled a little with restraints, blindfolds but no spanking. Went off sex during menopause but once through it my libido rocketet. Now we use toys my lingerie has expanded to incorporate leather and wetlook outfits all a bit more raunchy than before.
So really i am still discovering things that i am into. Going to book an overnight stay at a sex dungeon for our wedding anniversary so i expect i will discover more things that i will be in to there.
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