Too long, it’s always too long. Had sex about an hour ago...EVEN THAT is just too long....
Hmm maybe a few days!
Wow and I thought I not had it for a long time.
with a female coming up to 3 years, with a male (oral) 2 weeks, anal 4 months....I guess being bi gives me more of an opportunity
I've been without sex for over 20years now due to Wife's disability. I really miss it though.
A couple of months, tried a new antidepressant which has caused anorgasmia and the unability to feel any good sensations so I don’t really get anything out of sex except discomfort at the moment. I have cut down the dose and will be off it soon.
Five months? Maybe six
It's been almost two weeks and its killing me. Working away all next week so will be at least three weeks if the OH feels like it when I get back. Any mor than than three days without really starts getting to me.
Only upside at least I'm in the UAE next week 35 degrees and sunshine.....bye bye gray and cold......still miss making love though
To be honest I didn't have sex with my wife whilst she was ill , there were many reasons mostly the fact that she just couldn't feel anything, since she died I have had no opportunities (apart from a gay sex date that I chickened out of) to be honest I wasn't ready for anything. I thought if I tried gay sex it would help me to move on as it was different from married sex. The method is different not the emotional aspect. So that makes 5 years now. I use toys a lot and really like using a dildo on myself. I think it's because anal gives more intense sensations. So now I am like a blank canvas not sure what I want the most, a domatrix a trans sexual a gay lover or aspects of all
A few months now, and it will be much longer still to go.............. I miss sex, there is no denying that but not just because to the physical (even though it was AMAZING) but equally because of the bond I shared with that special someone is like nothing I have ever felt before. The intimacy is perfect and I cherish that and miss it terribly. I think it was the same mutual feeling for them with me.....
5 months roughly. That absolutely killed me.
Hmm, less than two years, more than one; I can’t be more precise as I don’t know
2 weeks now, the ‘itch’ is getting very strong so might have to do something about it this weekend ;)
It's been just over 10 years now.
It's been just over 10 years now.
Sorry for the accidental double post. Think of it as emphasis.
Most be a 3 months at least for me in the past.
Nearly four weeks after the birth of our boy and girl twins in December. We was given the all clear by our midwife the day before New Years Day. We have made up for it since.
Oo, I'm so glad someone asked this question because I was wondering how to enter the discussions on the forums for the first time.
For me it's been nearly EIGHT YEARS -- basically, since I got pregnant with my son. Though my husband and I love each other dearly, he won't have sex with me. Initially, that was because he said he was terrified of my getting pregnant again. But more recently, it's become clear that he also just doesn't have much of a sex drive because he's so worried about being a good dad and husband all the time. The stress of taking care of things drains his sex drive away.
For years I was hurt and angry and bitter and sad about our not having sex as I've always adored sex. It felt like some cruel punishment of the gods to be so in love and yet not have sex with my beloved.
Then for the past 3 years I've been on venlafaxine, an antidepressant that absolutely obliterated my libido. I was thankful in a way because it meant not having to be aroused and unable to satisfy myself.
But now, I'm almost completely off the antidepressant and my libido has come roaring back. This time though, I'm taking the situation into my own hands. And that's how I've come to be on the forum :) I've bought 3 dildos and a vibrator so far and I've gotten hold of erotica that actually works for me as opposed to turning me off. I've told my husband what I'm doing, that I love him but that I have to find a way to make this work for me since cheating on him with someone else is also not an option I want to pursue if I can help it.
Something I realised from the process is that I've always relied on my partners to bring me pleasure. Now with the toys, I'm discovering what works best for me, what I like and EXACTLY how I want it done. I like to pretend that I'm my own lover, that I'm looking after myself just like I'd like my partner (or partners if I'm ever so fortunate!) to do.
I'm just at the beginning of this exploration, but I think that another thing I'm discovering is that my expectations of him in the bedroom were perhaps just another pressure, that in a way I was making him feel that sex was only good if he made it so and that if it wasn't, he had "failed". Now I see that I can make sex great by myself and that's taking the pressure off. I wouldn't be surprised if we started having sex again in the near future as he sees how much fun I'm having and as I learn how to relax and enjoy myself.
For me it's been 8/9 years.
I was 16 when I had my first experience and after I realised how problematic the relationship was. She was nearly 10 years older than me and it turns out I wasn't the only young and impressionable girl she had her sights on either, as on having a conversation with someone nearly 7 years after the event revealed that she was in the same position about a year after I was. I did report this woman, because it was essentially grooming and I was underage when we first became "friends" and I stupidly trusted her. It makes me sick just thinking about it, actually, and that I was laughed at by a teacher I trusted with this information (because she was a woman, and I was a girl, it wasn't an issue apparently) meant I never told anyone again!
What it did to me meant I completly introverted. I swore off relationships, I didn't trust people, I still struggle trusting people. I mean, my heath has been awful and I've had a lot more things on my mind than getting in a relationship, or even a hook up! But it impacted all kinds of intimacy, simple things like being able to hug a friend became things that made me uncomfortable!
But this last year I've really taken the time to love myself which has lead to me being here, talking to you lot now. And let me tell you, it feels great. Not only has loving myself been mindblowingly good, but it's boosted my confidence, it has surprised my friends how easily I go in for a hug, it's completely changed my outlook on everything.
I'd now not hesitate to be in a relationship if the right person came along, and it would definitely have to be the right person because I really will have to trust them and share this part of myself with them.
But honestly I'm loving this new and expressive side of myself, with myself. I feel amazing, I'm happier, and I'm healthier too. So I'm not really in any hurry to end my 9 years of self imposed self love!