Just wondering how long you all go at it for. Me and my partner broke up for years and we got back together. We live separately but spend weekends together and maybe the odd night through the week. Our sex like is insane if we didn’t have kids I think we could go all weekend
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In my dim, distant youth it was quite usual for it to be getting light in the mornings and we’d still be at it.
On one occasion we ticked the box of not really getting out of bed for an entire 24hrs.
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I’m in my late forties he’s in his early fifties I honestly think we are going to harm each other. I always thought we were good in bed before this but now it’s another level 
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Depends on the circumstances.
We’re in our early 70’s and not as limber as we used to be and my wife has Parkinsons.
5 years ago we changed to a female led male chastity relationship which gave her total control of her and my orgasms. She learned how to come slowly or quickly and as many times as she wants. Together we learned how to control my orgasms so that I can hold out for as long as she wants.
We established a rule that we have sex 3 or 4 times a week and on these occasions we are rarely out of bed (unless the activity demands it) before lunchtime.
We do, however, sneak in a ‘quickie’ a couple of times a week too. This is more likely to be a session of impact play or pegging (I’m the sub here) and lasts maybe an hour or so.
For us though the length of the session is less important than the quality.
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2-4 hours for us, but that’s not including snuggling in bed and talking afterwards. I could do that forever if I didn’t have work to do and a home to run.
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probably at least two hours. We’d cuddle and when I could get hard again we’d do it again. Once we did it three times in one very long session. I remember finally getting up for lunch - I was hungry!
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I’d think it’s more about the quality rather than the length of a session 
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Last weekend we had a 7hr session, ourselves and lots of lovehoney toys were included!
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It’s as long as it takes!
We’ve had urgent quickies that have really hit the mark.
If we have the time, we have spent the day playing. Solo and together we enjoy our time indulging ourselves. In these moments we make full use of our toy collection, revisiting some that have been overlooked when new toys are added. When we do this we often rediscover just how good they were when we first purchased them.
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I mentioned our 7hr session last week, just had a half hour one now, which was equally as fun, different situations dictate how long it goes on for
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As long as stamina lasts..
I do prefer a longer session to a quick rushed job, but then it’s horses for courses, sometimes a quickie is just what’s needed
I like having several shorter sessions - it will be an hour or so and then waking up and having another go and then in the morning. Doesn’t happen often due to things going on - but perhaps soon as we become empty nesters.
So entirely depends on our mood and the situation sometimes its a case of wham bam just get it done to releave the sexual tension, other time and to be honest more of the time now we like to take out time and fully enjoy a longer session
I’ve probably answered this before, but we’re at the point now that even a “leisurely, take our time, extended sexcapade” really maxes out around an hour. That’s really about as long as my stamina can last before I get hungry and my blood sugar crashes and my erection goes into retreat. Likewise, that’s about as long as wifey can be teased and edged before her overactive mind kicks in and wanders away. So about an hour of actually sex/play together, and then some leisurely time for clean up and after care.
To be honest, even our bedtime routine, which runs about 20 minutes, is pretty satisfying.
The real sweet spot for a Sunday afternoon romp is probably somewhere right about 45 minutes allowing for 10 minutes of falling into bed together and making out, 10-15 minutes of trading oral, another 10-15 of really flexing those sex muscles with playing in some more “varied” positions before giving 5-10 minutes to make sure we each find our orgasm and move on with our day.
I fantasize about being in a season where we have enough free time (read: kids, GTFO!) to really spend more time with our BDSM practice so that we’re each better equipped for holding each other in sub(ish) space for longer periods of time to stretch that play.
ETA: I have not commented on this thread, somehow, so I’m glad I saw it today!
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what are some of your favorite positions. I love going back and forth between eating my wife out and missionary type penetration but would love to hear some other fun things.
I love just being inside and “hanging out” and nice and slow strokes
Most common positions:
- Missionary/Variations - usually end up when I’m no top with my legs on the outside and I’m a little more elevated for grinding on her clit and mound, her thighs then are closed around my shaft. More of a grinding than thrusting. From that position can alternate from lying flat on top of her to being propped up more on my arms to being almost fully upright and supporting myself on the headboard, leaning back with my arms hands on her thighs, or both hands on her chest/palming her breasts (really have to be careful getting into that position so as to not push/pull one breast unevenly or painfully in a direction. Upright leaves more room for her to masturbate with her fingers or vibrator (We-Vibe Melt is the go-to) which is what we do most nights.
- Cowgirl/Reverse Cowgirl - she’s always varying where her weight is, whether directly upright, more bent over, or leaning backward with her hands on my thighs or playing with my balls. She has almost always been a strictly on her knees cowgirl, not squatting. Other minor variations that we come to naturally but may not be instinctive include varying whether I’m flexing my glutes/hips upward for resistance or to provide thrusting vs just relaxing, as well as whether my hands are just wandering and caressing vs supporting weight/movement on her hips, under her butt, pressing up/handholding (like mutual pushup/pommel horse kind of thing), or around her waist/abdomen (like, hands on both sides with thumbs/pressure just below belly button, or inverted with both palms on lower abdomen with thumbs at/under navel). She always gets final say on what I’m doing there - sometimes my support really messes with the rhythm she is enjoying and she’ll tell me to stop. Also great position for adding a vibrator.
- Doggy/Prone (flat doggy) - prone is actually our second most used position and is a very fast cum for me most days. She can masturbate, too.
- Sidewinder - that’s what I call it, I think it might be in the LH Position Guide as “The Right Tangle.” She lays on her side with the “top” leg extended forward. I straddle her “bottom” leg to penetrate. Her top leg can then either rest across my thigh or be held up on my elbow or shoulders, depending on mood and flexibility. I have a lot of room on top to play with angles and move her bottom leg relative to her body to be either more behind her torso for more g-spot stimulation or more from the front for clit friction or just straight on perpendicular to torso. I find this is a very “tight” feeling position and how she uses her top leg really changes the feel. Great position for me to be able to caress and stimulate her front or back at the same time. She can reach up and touch me or caress herself easily. Can also easily transition to a rear entry or missionary without disentangling.
- Titty-f_cking/Face-f_cking - self explanatory, but always favorites for moving in and out and around positions. Should include in that tea-bagging because I love having my balls sucked and played with. It’s a dream of mine to get both in her mouth at the same time, but my wife has a pretty small mouth despite having like no gag reflex at all. Also enjoy taking this in reverse and including some edging. Easy enough to also transition to 69 from here.
- Face-Sitting gets its own bullet cause it’s the best. Forward or reverse, I don’t care. Can also 69 from here. I love it when she’s reversed, grinding her clit onto my tongue, my nose in her pussy, and she does not bend down to suck me but does give me a little hand action just to tease me and keep me on edge.
- Standing doggy on the edge of the bed is a good one.
- Plow - I’ve taken to calling this by its yoga name, I think, but basically any position where she has her feet up in the air, whether they end up on my shoulders or fully inverted over her own shoulders. It’s just such a deep position and feels fantastic for a hard pounding. Recently I’ve been really into holding both of her ankles together to one side/shoulder at the same time so her thighs are closed and it’s very deep and tight at the same time.
- Do love a good couch cowgirl/lap-sit when we have the full house to ourselves and put some of our home movies on the big screen. Love looking over her shoulder to watch her sucking me on the big screen when she’s bouncing on my cock on the couch.
- I guess there’s spooning but that’s pretty rare for us other than a lazy Saturday morning and doesn’t usually lead to an orgasm for either of us.
How’s that? It’s quite the list - we do occasionally use the weekly position from LH or pull a card from a deck of positions we’ve had for years, but honestly some of those positions are so acrobatic just to get there they aren’t actually much use for pleasure, just the sake of saying you did it. It’s fun, but it’s not the point. Last year 77% of our sex included missionary (251 of 323 times), and most of the times that was the only position used. The next most common was prone (17% of the time, 56/323) and then a drop to cowgirl (7%, 22/323). Which is just to say, having a deep bench of positions to draw from doesn’t mean we mix it up all the time. It’s kind of like cooking: most of the things we cook through the week are basically salt, pepper, garlic. So when there’s a dish that gets thrown in with paprika or cumin or a full masala it really pops and stands out. It’s good to have go-to and standby positions that are comfortable and homey and dependably satisfying so that the extra spice really pops when you do have space for it.
Samantha here. This is an interesting conversation. Its only in the last 4 years since iv been with my partner that iv started to have really great sex. Iv had a fwb in the past that could cum 4 or 5 times in a night which is great too but ben knows my body and knows how to tease me and cam literally make me cum when he wants.
A quickie will be 10 to 15 mins and ill have 4 or 5 orgasms easily
A normal session is maybe 45 mins to an hour and ill cum over 10 times.
If were really going for it, it could last 2 hours or more with a good 30 mins of anal to finish. Or until i cant take it anymore.
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Sometimes it is a quick one if we are short of time 15-20 mins and other times we can have sessions that go on for 3 or 4 hours longer sessions will be lots of playing, oral, and toys. Might watch some porn or just talk about our sex fantasy’s as well on a longer session. Often longer sessions involve our female friend joining in the fun as well.
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