This evening I was invited to a late thirties birthday bash. It’s not a party exactly, more of a meal out with friends, but it seems all of my friends are into doing this, even my father-in-law, who is 73 years old. I’ll admit I’ve started to make excuses not to go to a lot of them for the simple reason that I don’t hear from them throughout the rest of the year.
It was my birthday two weeks ago and I didn’t plan anything besides a meal with my Mum and brother, and even that was because they insisted on seeing me on my birthday. It just occurred to me that I don’t hold birthday parties anymore (I’m 37) and I don’t miss it, but some of my friends - who are older - still do.
I will say also that my 20th birthday party led to a walk-out (no fault of my own) and my 21st birthday party was a complete wash-out (invited 80, 14 showed), my hen do also got turned into a sten do because none of my hens were game for outdoor pursuits. I have found that at every party since then, it’s always the same small group of people (family) who show, and the same people (“friends”) who don’t go to yours but still expect you to go to theirs. That’s why I stopped bothering: I’d rather spend my money where it matters.
So, do you still hold birthday parties? If not, at what age did you stop? What age do you think is too old (not including milestone birthdays)?
I’m not really a birthday party person, I’m more of the have a meal/takeaway with close friends/family than a proper party.
My 40th I went out for lunch with my bestie and goddaughter and had 40 little gifts to open and that was lovely. I’d much prefer small and meaningful than bigger and ‘for the sake of it’
I’ve always had family meals. Yes last year we had a “Septemberween party” for my 36th that was complete madness but it was still just a family dinner with spooky themed food
My 18th birthday party with my family and a good piss up with friends,finish of with a good Virginia activity went well with lesbian. Licking her clit moving onto anal and vibratory. .
I think it’s rathed odd holding a birthday party, like you’re describing, for people you only see once a year at the party. I don’t think I’d want to go either. However, a celebratory drink or meal with people you see regularly makes sense to me, and is a good excuse for an evening out… maybe it just makes sense to me as that’s what we do, though .
I always work and continue daily life as normal for my Birthday but then the last 5 or 6 years, I’ve gone out with three friends (that I see very regularly) for dinner sometime in the surrounding week or two. We do this for all our Birthdays as it’s a good excuse for the four of us to properly catch up.
Aside: Just to be clear on the rules, they state:
Remember at Lovehoney, life starts at 18 years-old. Any posts referring to sex acts before this age will be deleted.
It isn’t 100% clear but (my interpretation) I don’t think there is anything wrong with @Weeradge stating they last had a Birthday Party at age 7. I certainly refer to things and life experiences that happened during my childhood as do many other forum members. Just remember, we were all 100% virgins and never did anything sexual before 18 here!
I’m glad it’s not just me who sees the insanity, I was surprised to be invited at all to be honest as we haven’t seen or heard from them (she’s married too) since my father-in-law’s birthday in May. It sounds a bit petty I know, but she didn’t even write a simple “happy birthday” on my Facebook wall or send me a hsppy birthday text, yet she expects me to trudge halfway across town to celebrate her? I’m busy and tired too!
I think life has to go on on our birthdays once we get past a certain age, especially after we get our own home/get married/ have kids etc. I had to have an engineer out of a broken window lock (fortunately locked shut) on my birthday and it was a nightmare trying to rearrange it, I also had a Virgin Media engineer out for some network issues. It is what it is - the VM engineer was chatty and wished me a happy birthday too but the window guy was a right miserable sod
Add to all this that neither of us can stand her husband and can’t fathom why she married him, so I can’t understand why mine is suddenly so eager to be in his presence because I’m certainly not! The guy jokes about her in front of her then fusses over her when he can see that she’s upset, he’s sexist, greedy, finds himself far funnier than anyone else does, gets heated in debates quickly and is just generally unpleasant to be around. I understand he has his isssues (apparently) but he’s quick enough to lecture other people about their manners whilst completely neglecting his own and if confronted, gets confrontational. He’s also a hypocrite - he’s a man of the church and he preaches the Bible whilst completely neglecting it himself. She seems genuinely miserable and like she’s just tolerating him sometimes, pressumbly for the lavish lifestyle that he provides her with. Being someone who is zero tolerance on abuse, it’s very hard for me to bite my own tongue around him sometimes.
Thankyou for clearing up on the forum rules too. I find it interesting that there seems to be some flexibility as when I’ve mentioned pre-18 things in the past, they’ve been edited out
I’ve never really liked birthday parties, just a good time with close loved ones is good for me. I don’t want to celebrate with people I don’t like. They probably don’t really like me either
