How popular is grinding/humping as a solo masturbation technique

I was chatting to some guys last night they were talking about porn and how they love to see women grinding a pillow or teddy in their panties, i agreed its hot i then suggested it might be fun for guys to grind like that as well and their reply ewww not for me cuming in your underwear is too messy

I personally love cuming in my underwear i love the restriction feeling as you can feel everything happening, I said its the same with women you know they get wet and sticky in thie panties they said yea but its different, i dont get how its different

As a girl, I do like grinding against my pillow/teddy like you said but I usually do it as a warm-up before moving onto other things. I always used to masturbate through my underwear (before discovering the joy of toys) and there would only be a very small amount of "mess"; not even enough to wash or change them straight away or anything. Maybe what your friends mean is that it's more messy than a girl's juices because men produce more fluids. But if you like doing it just enjoy yourself, hun 😊

I'm now wondering with the women who do this how many of them are like you as you said it was small amount of mess, I haven't had many partners but they all got pretty wet when grinding that way. I know everyone's different i wonder if the people who get really wet get put off grinding in their panties like my male friends.

Yea it is messy and sticky but i just love the feeling and it feels a bit naughty as well, Now i have just got a mains powered wand I'm having even more fun using it ontop of my clothes, sod the mess made i love the feeling to much lol![](upload://kym5tZ5EfyJxs6TKHB1Q2HtGSpK.gif)![](upload://h7LJ67OOrR57VDYrj5ZEwwHAfLG.gif)

As a teenager I used to lie face down in bed and grind away (hands free) until I came. Then I'd just fall asleep lying in the sticky mess. I'd always sleep so much better after cumming like that. Happy days .....

For people with a clitoris, rubbing and grinding is an extremely common and healthy way to masturbate, however for people with a penis, this is known as "prone masturbation" which can lead to erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation as well as other urology problems later in life. It can also trap the individual in a "one route to climax" habit, where they can no longer reach orgasm through any other method of stimulation (Anorgasmia). This makes shared sex experiences quite challenging.

I'm still reading about the subject so don't know it all yet, but it seems to be something which men should only enjoy occassionally, and should certainly avoid while they're young and depeloping a masturbation routine.

That is interesting Jess i have never heard or read about this, never even heard of prone masturbation.

teacake wrote:

That is interesting Jess i have never heard or read about this, never even heard of prone masturbation.

It is interesting, isn't it?! I only found out about it this year when a YouTube commenter brought it to my attention. It's definitley worth reading about.

Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

For people with a clitoris, rubbing and grinding is an extremely common and healthy way to masturbate, however for people with a penis, this is known as "prone masturbation" which can lead to erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation as well as other urology problems later in life. It can also trap the individual in a "one route to climax" habit, where they can no longer reach orgasm through any other method of stimulation (Anorgasmia). This makes shared sex experiences quite challenging.

I'm still reading about the subject so don't know it all yet, but it seems to be something which men should only enjoy occassionally, and should certainly avoid while they're young and depeloping a masturbation routine.

Never heard of this either......you learn something everyday.

I seem to live my life in a permanent state of arousal so my knickers are always wet and soggy. I always put on fresh ones after playing sex or playing solo but they don't stay dry for very long.

I love to grind against a cushion etc but my favourite place to grind is sitting astride the arm of my sofa. Don't worry, it's leather so cleans very easily 😉 xx

Prone masturbation is all on the net but i can't find any reliable sources about it messing with your body, but i have only done a quick search. I will leave my deep searching till the weekend lol

This was definitely how I first discovered orgasms. An accidental misplacement of a blanket was all it took! I used to masturbate quite a lot like this before I discovered sex toys as it was quiet (so no disturbing the people I live with) although I didn’t really know that other people did the same at the time as female masturbation wasn’t talked about much at all

I'm not convinced by the terrible warnings about prone for males. They all seem to be tied in with the 'nofap' movement, a bit hyped up and short on evidence.

Never been big on it myself. I just don't feel anything great for it.

I have seen the grinding on porn sites but never been with somebody who has done it. I think with porn I have seen it’s been more used to build up the mood before they go into full play. I think with a women the grinding thing would work more for that area rather than trying it with a hard on. The only time I jump during masturbation is when I am using my Fleshlight and want to do it hands free. In terms of mess I don’t go out of my way to cum in my underwear, if I’m at home I feel there is better ways to clean up, however we do like to do public play now and again and sometimes it’s easier to just finish in your underwear also walking around knowing you have adds that extra edge to it.

Reading this thread, i get the impression the warnings about males doing it are utter b******s! Most sexual pleasure is based on friction no matter how it's achieved.

Agreed WillC I think friction for a lot of masturbation is key and this could be achieved if done correctly, I just feel that it’s something I personally would not get that much enjoyment out of or would be for me however everyone is into other things. Like I say though a lot of porn I have seen with this in has been more as build up play

As a female love grinding against a naked male thigh...a male "friend" of mine used to hump and grind against his pillow...

This is very interesting Jess and something that I should look into. I have been a prone masterbater all my life and now in later live I suffer from ED and no longer reach orgasm. Am I right to assume there is no way back. Any advice would be welcome. I also suffer with heart problems and meds to help with ED are not available. @Lovehoney_Jess_Wilde

I love humping my bed. With blankets or a pillow with my cock slipped between that and the mattress. I also wear tight leggings or Capri pants and rub my penis between my thighs to cum. Either way the hands free experience is the goal.

We occasionally practice non penetrative sex.

I love having my husband rubbing his penis between my labia. I also love riding him until either he cums or I do. The last to cum usually gets oral. :sunglasses::sunglasses:

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I enjoy grinding as a warm up, and recently I’ve started enjoying my OH dry humping me

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