I am quite sexually experienced and always try something at least once. My next step up the ladder i suppose is dom/sub play however im worried because i wont be able to hold an orgasm, if im cumming then its happening
Any tips advice
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I think you need to clarify what you want. Cause reading that, I’m not sure you know yourself.
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My biggest fantasy is to be a sex slave but i know part of that role is about holding back, being given permission and told when to orgasm…but my point is that i dont think i can hold it if i am about to orgasm
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If you want to be able to hold back, work on edging. Bring yourself close but not too close and stop. As you get better, bring yourself closer and closer.
However, who says that being a sex slave requires you not to orgasm without permission? Yes, there are many that include that but it’s not mandatory. If it’s not something you can do, why make yourself feel bad? Sex should be enjoyable so work around it. Your partner could “collect” your orgasms so the more the better, or your orgasms don’t matter so you can have as many as you want but you can’t stop the play until your partner wants to stop, or go down a more forced orgasm/orgasm on command type route, although be very careful with conditioning yourself to orgasm. It is reversible but does take time and effort.
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If you don’t have permission you will be punished severally if you are with a true Dom. You will learn in short order.
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Are you a dom
Technically a switch but have been involved in the scene for many years… years ago.
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How can i message you directly for some more advice tips
There is no direct messaging on this forum as far as I know and I can’t share an email based on forum rules. Honestly, there are regular members that live the lifestyle you are asking about right here on these message boards that can speak about it much better than I and a search will turn up tons of past discussions.
That being said, also do a search on “BDSM forum” to see what comes up. If you are hit with rules right away, check to see if those same rules are actually applied and if not, check out another. Stay away from the unmoderated message boards like reddit or Quora because they are nothing but a troll factory.
My suggestion is to expand on your first post for more info for others to reply to. The more you tell, the better the replies.
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Thank you
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No problem. I am here looking for a few answers myself.
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Hey, I think first you need to find yourself someone who wants to share the fantasy.
You can always watch some JOI (jerk off instructions) videos online, that should get you prepared. A good dom should know how to edge and keep you from finishing too soon
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You could always wank off the day before you have a session so that you reduce the chances of cumming too soon. I would imagine that if you are using an experienced Dom, they will know how to help you prolong it. And if it does happen then just enjoy it.